I listened to a thing from a sex psychologist ages ago who talked about this. She said there was a connection between the developing arousal (sexual) and arousal (general emotional) that forms during the transition from childhood to adolescence, so there is commonly a connection formed between something the then-child has strong emotions toward, positive or negative, so a person can develop a sexual fixation on something beloved (mommy/daddy is perfect love personified. Dinosaurs are so frigging cool. etc.) or terrifying. (Mommy/daddy is mad. The monster is going to eat me all up. etc.)
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Wasn’t really allowed to have the tv on in my house. Guess that explains the therapy.
She was the head of my class, if you know what I mean...
Some of mine were there even before any media influence whatsoever. It probably helps with discovery, sure. But to me, they seem to be entirely innate.
Same honestly, it's rather strange how I remember having mine at an early age, and that's when I didn't have any internet access of the sort, no sexual trauma or encounters.
I had freebasics when I was younger, but long after having my tastes. At the time it only allowed you to browse specific sites without images, one of them being Wikipedia and I remember thinking I must have been a reincarnation of either Sade or Masoch. Strange thoughts!
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Weirdly, whenever the thing I like now (or stuff that could be compared to it anyway, since obviously the intent of the authors of those movies and shows was different from that of people making fetish art) would come up in tv and movies when I was a kid, I actually found it scary to a degree most other scary scenes didnt. And the second-oldest dream I can still remember having from when I was a kid was a nightmare involving it. Clearly at some point during or after puberty my brain did a 180 on that but since I dont remember the subject ever coming up in anything I watched during my teens, I cant pinpoint exactly when that was.
Apparently the signals for arousal and fear can get cross-wired in your brain. It wasn't fear for me, but I remember when I was a hormonal teen, I would play video games and get so fucking frustrated is have to crank one out to feel better. Maybe that's the same thing. Maybe I was just weird.
Also apparently that's why taking a date to a horror movie or amusement park can get you laid. Or maybe it's all bullshit.
That would explain the porn stars poping ballons i once saw.
Don't remind me.