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Do gay people seriously still use this kind of derogatory language in referring to their partners?
Or has this been appropriated by incels to make themselves feel superior?
??? Its only derogatory if you think bottoming is degrading (which I mean it can be, but context is important).
I am unaware of alternative language, though in a lot of contexts its used to refer to the passive role even though most people understand it's unrelated.