No Stupid Questions
No such thing. Ask away!
!nostupidquestions is a community dedicated to being helpful and answering each others' questions on various topics.
The rules for posting and commenting, besides the rules defined here for lemmy.world, are as follows:
Rules (interactive)
Rule 1- All posts must be legitimate questions. All post titles must include a question.
All posts must be legitimate questions, and all post titles must include a question. Questions that are joke or trolling questions, memes, song lyrics as title, etc. are not allowed here. See Rule 6 for all exceptions.
Rule 2- Your question subject cannot be illegal or NSFW material.
Your question subject cannot be illegal or NSFW material. You will be warned first, banned second.
Rule 3- Do not seek mental, medical and professional help here.
Do not seek mental, medical and professional help here. Breaking this rule will not get you or your post removed, but it will put you at risk, and possibly in danger.
Rule 4- No self promotion or upvote-farming of any kind.
That's it.
Rule 5- No baiting or sealioning or promoting an agenda.
Questions which, instead of being of an innocuous nature, are specifically intended (based on reports and in the opinion of our crack moderation team) to bait users into ideological wars on charged political topics will be removed and the authors warned - or banned - depending on severity.
Rule 6- Regarding META posts and joke questions.
Provided it is about the community itself, you may post non-question posts using the [META] tag on your post title.
On fridays, you are allowed to post meme and troll questions, on the condition that it's in text format only, and conforms with our other rules. These posts MUST include the [NSQ Friday] tag in their title.
If you post a serious question on friday and are looking only for legitimate answers, then please include the [Serious] tag on your post. Irrelevant replies will then be removed by moderators.
Rule 7- You can't intentionally annoy, mock, or harass other members.
If you intentionally annoy, mock, harass, or discriminate against any individual member, you will be removed.
Likewise, if you are a member, sympathiser or a resemblant of a movement that is known to largely hate, mock, discriminate against, and/or want to take lives of a group of people, and you were provably vocal about your hate, then you will be banned on sight.
Rule 8- All comments should try to stay relevant to their parent content.
Rule 9- Reposts from other platforms are not allowed.
Let everyone have their own content.
Rule 10- Majority of bots aren't allowed to participate here. This includes using AI responses and summaries.
Credits
Our breathtaking icon was bestowed upon us by @Cevilia!
The greatest banner of all time: by @TheOneWithTheHair!
view the rest of the comments
There is no ideal solution, only whatever works for you.
There are two methods I use.
Ready?
First, If I just want it to go away, I shout every time it, whatever it is, shows up in my thoughts. I distract myself from the thought, and don't allow it to take root. At first, I might need to do it several times an hour. Over time, though, the need lessens, and eventually I don't think about it anymore.
But, that's not the only way. If I think there might be something to learn from the situation, I'll do the opposite. I dig in and think it through. I explore everything about it as best I can. I extract whatever lesson I can from it, then it feels completed to me. When I'm done with it, I can put it away and forget about it. I become bored with the subject because I've studied it from every angle, and often I do this through writing with a pen and paper. The physical act of writing, rather than typing forces me to engage with the subject more completely. This can be a difficult process, but once it's done, it's done, I can move on and it won't bother me again. I know I'm done when I realize I'm writing in circles, I start repeating what I wrote before because I can't think of anything else to say, or explore. This is how I got through getting fired from one of my early jobs and later how I got through my divorce.
Take responsibility for your actions, thoughts, and feelings. But, leave other peoples' responsibilities to them. For instance, my wife cheated on me, that was her choice and I left that with her. But, I wasn't innocent, I could have been a better husband to her, and I had to admit that to myself and learn what I did wrong, and try to understand why I did it. I could have easily believed the failure of OUR relationship was entirely HER fault because she cheated, but that wasn't true.
I hope you find something that works for you.