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How to passively stop or slow friends and family wasting hours daily scrolling or consuming content. (lemmy.ml)

submitted 6 days ago by OhVenus_Baby@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I see friends, family, strangers, subconsciously go for their phones during thoughtless times daily. Have a moment to think... Scroll. Showering with their phone propped up watching a video. First wake up and spend an hour or two frying the mind.

It has gotten so bad in my friend group and close family I swear they could not function emotionally without consuming content. When you bring it up or any negative about it. Anger, distasteful emotions. How do you talk, convince, gain real traction towards slowing or decreasing time spent. Once or twice a day could be ok. These people do it for sometimes hours daily. It's sickening. Advice?

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[–] sudoer777@lemmy.ml 6 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Do they have a reason not to?

[–] Orcocracy@hexbear.net 10 points 6 days ago (1 children)

We all have lots of very good reasons to keep phone usage to an absolute minimum. Not all screentime is inherently bad, but all of the big infinite scroll apps are designed to be as addictive as cigarettes.

[–] sudoer777@lemmy.ml 1 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

I agree that those apps are crazy addictive. But like what's the reason for them in particular to stop? What are they losing that's of value to them?

[–] MeetMeAtTheMovies@hexbear.net 4 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Time with themself and others. Their ability to pay attention to things. A healthy baseline level of stimulation.

[–] sudoer777@lemmy.ml 1 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

If it's true that's what they value, then that can be used as leverage to help break that habit. I would say that the other suggestions in this thread to not allow phone use when inviting them to things could be one place to start, but also while doing the same thing yourself. Or maybe come up with some other reason like being security paranoid or something (these apps are a privacy invasion for those around them after all).

If they're too depressed to care though then that's another problem.