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Pretty much what it says on the tin, but for more context. My friends and I use Discord to play D&D and other TTRPGs. We also use it to send memes and just have conversations. We mostly do the chat, text, images, gifs, etc. But we also use the voice and video chat pretty regularly too. Screen share sometimes as well. So I'd like to try to find something that has all those features if possible.

The new ID or facial recognition requirement they are implementing is a deal breaker for a few of us, and so if I can set up some kind of alternative to make it a non-issue, I'd like to.

I'm running Ubunutu 22.04 LETS, AMD 3700X, 64GBRAM, 10x 6TB HDD, and and 2 4TB NVmE. Have a 2gb up/down internet connection. So I don't think we should have any issues making it work smoothly for 7 people.

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[–] carrylex@lemmy.world 14 points 12 hours ago (5 children)

Matrix hoster here.

I would recommend Matrix as it has pretty much everything, including cross platform clients, threads, voice/video calls, screensharing, spaces (aka servers), federation and E2EE. Matrix also has bridges for Discord and pretty much every other service so this could ease transition...

But self hosting requires reading the docs and having some in depth knowledge and understanding as it can be quite complex.

I would recommend just creating a Matrix account on one of the common global servers and testing it.

If you want to self-host there are some pre-defined setups available (example) but I would still recommend to bring at least 5-10 hours.

Regarding operations: It's really resilient and barely ever breaks and also doesn't need a lot of resources. A 1-2vCPU server with under 1GB RAM server is enough for less than 10 people.

[–] hexagonwin@lemmy.today 2 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

may i ask which homeserver and client you use? it seems like synapse and element is not the best choice especially for small number of people.

[–] carrylex@lemmy.world 1 points 9 hours ago

synapse and element/schildi-chat work quite well for me :)

On mobile the newer Element X clients usually lack some features (like calls) but you can use them quite well for chatting.

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