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Aight, as someone that used to wash dirty bodies for a living, and insists on a level of cleanliness because of that, you're way overestimating the funk most people have in the short term.
The typical person that's bathing regularly (not even daily) and is changing clothing daily just isn't going to smell that bad.
Hell, if a person is actively sweating, they'll smell better because sweat will flush away the stuff that makes funky smell or taste, so all you get is saltiness.
For real, even in nursing homes with urinary incontinent patients, they didn't stink just by virtue of being in a wet diaper for a while. A washcloth (or the equivalent) and a light scrub would remove any aroma. For an ambulatory adult using basic methods to clear residual urine, you might get the lightest hint at the end of a long day.
Mostly, genitals just smell genital-y. A little light musk, some hints of sebum scent, and maybe the generic scent of skin. It's far from unpleasant, even when strong enough to detect while helping someone change clothes.
Now, I never went down on, or fucked a patient. Wouldn't have been interested in crossing that line even if they were otherwise compatible.
But I have gotten freaky with people after their work, after workouts, etc. The truth is that if they stink it points to something being out of whack. It's not the default at all. A person's diet and intake of things has way more influence on their taste and similar to their scent than just being out and about randomly.
For real, while I do prefer such intimacy fresh out of a shower because of my history dealing with people that did have something out of whack, it's not some kind of horrible experience otherwise. Like, it's less unpleasant than kissing after eating roasted garlic (which isn't really unpleasant tbh, just intense).
And it's not like a full bath is going to be significantly better at knocking down UTI risks than a wipe it washcloth and a light attention.
Seriously, where did you get the idea that crotches stink that bad just walking around?
I bet you have some interesting stories.
I used to be banned from dinner tables because of that lol.
My initial thought was what you were like camping, sitting around a campfire, just chatting.
I've done that :)
Sometimes I get lucky and a given gathering is up for the really gnarly (but still entertaining rather than maudlin) stories, and I end up going on for quite a while lol.
He could be a bard singing at a camp fire, if you've play RDR2 i imagine a song like that.