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Alright, so, this is going to sound crazy, but I don't like showering. It has nothing to do with the feeling of being clean (I love cleanliness and order), but just simply because I find it uncomfortable to shower. I have a whole bunch of fancy shampoos, nice-smelling body washes, etc to help encourage me to shower, but it still just feels freaking uncomfortable and annoying. And it's so embarrassing to talk about it because of the stereotypes about people and showering. I end up showering on about an every-other-day or every-two-days basis, and I'd really like reducing that down to every day. I don't like smelling, or desperately trying to avoid people because I'm insecure I stink. I just want to be motivated to shower without having to constantly force myself to do it for the sake of everyone else or picking up the pieces.

By the way, my psychiatrist strongly suspects I'm autistic. I'm being formally evaluated w/ the psychologists and stuff in late July. So that might be a reason why I have such an odd dilemma like this.

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[–] ZERONOVABLOSSOM@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I bring my towel into the bathroom and turn the water on. I tell myself I can turn the water off and give up but usually just the partial act of showering will get me to do it. Putting on music or a podcast helps so I can pay attention to something else while showering helps too.

Otherwise I’ll use wet wipes for the days it’s just not happening.

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Just want to second all of this advice. Make showering as pleasant as possible - I use podcasts the most. I'll even bring in my coffee or a cold beverage and reframe it as "spa" time.

Also showering every other day, as long as you're not in a super hot climate, is usually plenty to keep yourself at normal levels of cleanliness.

[–] punk@thelemmy.club 5 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Crap, why didn't I think of it as spa time? Seriously, I might just get some stuff to set it up like a bathhouse. Too bad my area's too rural and separated for any banyas to exist.

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 22 hours ago

Sometimes tricking our brain is easy lol

I hope that helps!!

[–] punk@thelemmy.club 4 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Thank you for the tip—it sounds amazing!

I love music, but it doesn't sound right in the shower, therefore I avoid audio for the sake of preserving the original sound. I have a pack of antibiotic wet wipes for that reason as well.

[–] Whirling_Ashandarei@lemmy.world 3 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Audio books and a decent speaker. I have a little clip speaker that I bought specifically for the shower. I love getting lost in books while showering and since the actual cleaning activity occupies the annoying part of my brain, I can truly sink in to the narrative.

[–] punk@thelemmy.club 1 points 19 hours ago

Damn, the JBL one? I was thinking about getting that for snowboarding anyway LOL. I've never really tried an audiobook, but if I end up getting a JBL, it's worth a shot I guess!