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Alright, so, this is going to sound crazy, but I don't like showering. It has nothing to do with the feeling of being clean (I love cleanliness and order), but just simply because I find it uncomfortable to shower. I have a whole bunch of fancy shampoos, nice-smelling body washes, etc to help encourage me to shower, but it still just feels freaking uncomfortable and annoying. And it's so embarrassing to talk about it because of the stereotypes about people and showering. I end up showering on about an every-other-day or every-two-days basis, and I'd really like reducing that down to every day. I don't like smelling, or desperately trying to avoid people because I'm insecure I stink. I just want to be motivated to shower without having to constantly force myself to do it for the sake of everyone else or picking up the pieces.

By the way, my psychiatrist strongly suspects I'm autistic. I'm being formally evaluated w/ the psychologists and stuff in late July. So that might be a reason why I have such an odd dilemma like this.

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[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 5 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

I usually just let my patients do hoebaths / birdbaths for a bit in between real ones. That's wet wipes to the face, pits, and genitals / perineum and then a shower cap designed for a bedbath where you scrunch it in, let it sit, then just towel dry it out. You can also put it in a warmer designed for wipes / caps OR some of them even have microwave instructions.

Now that said I have access to all of this from the stockroom on the medical unit next door who actually have to do bedbaths rapidly and at scale. For a cheaper / more eco friendly option most nursing homes use a basin and washcloths with special no rinse soaps. If you keep your home sink clean enough you don't even need the basin. Just be careful to go in the right order face -> pits -> genitals -> butt.

Another thought (if you're white) is that washing your hair once a week isn't actually just for black people. White hair CAN tolerate daily washing with soap but that doesn't mean it should. My 2B hair has been much fuller with a healthier sheen and gets compliments from hairdressers with once a week washing. I do regular soap only once a week then put a pea size amount of Vaseline on my fingertips then fingercomb through and that's all it needs. It gets wet and toweled off in my regular shower but that's incidental. My hair is also short so there's no daily combing and styling happening just making sure the part is set right while it's wet. If you're washing daily right now there'll be a 1-2 month oily detox / withdrawal period but just tie it off your face and wear a hat / scarf and it'll be worth it when the detox is done.

My last thing to say is that if you pick ONE hygiene task daily the one thing that will affect your long term health the MOST is brushing your teeth, so if you have to pick one it's that one. Well washing your hands is actually more important but I'm hoping you're doing that more than once a day.