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Is struggling with goals a human problem or an adhd problem (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 weeks ago by bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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I have never been able to set goals. Mostly because I'm working on 100 projects at once. But also because a goal could get changed by something outside of your control.

If I do try making goals, they usually just end up being "make more money so I can put it toward project #67 to maybe get closer to done". I've kind of had the goal of "learn to program" my whole life but never can get past chapter 2 of any class I take. I've kind of started a visual basic training but even once im done with that its not like i can go off and make a program that is useful. And game design requires such an insane e time commitment id have to stop all my other projects to even think about that route.

I guess a big part is I dont see a point in goals either. Everything is always dynamic so even if you reach a goal it may not even matter by the time you finish it.

My day job is mildly challenging but mostly easy. We have to set 4 goals a year but I usually just make them something im already doing (update how tos for certain tasks, take a business seminar class, etc).

And im only mildly adhd (so they say. I feel like its way worse, I just hide it very well).

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[–] FRYD@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

I can relate. I pretty much only set short term goals. I don’t think there’s really anything wrong with not having long term goals. It is frustrating to feel as though I don’t really have the option to though.

As far as the learning to program thing, I’ve had the same goal before and I only ever made progress on it when I was medicated. If you’re not already, it’s an option to consider.

[–] Dettweiler42@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

I've discovered that I have to go into something with a purpose in order to learn it. Taking a coding class might help in the beginning with breaking the ice, but most learning I've gained had come from "I need to make a script for this specific thing" and then starting that process.

My most recent coding adventure was while playing From The Depths and I needed to figure out how to write a lua script so my jet could have thrust vectoring.

[–] charlottellt@gamerstavern.online 3 points 2 weeks ago

@Dettweiler42 100%. I’ve taken up knitting purely for the purpose of knitting warm clothes for this winter for both my kids. It’s been a week and a bit and I’ve already made a scarf for one of them which is a win.

If it’s just an open-ended “I’m going to learn this for the sake of fun/improvement” I struggle to maintain momentum past the first few weeks.

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