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I don't mean to sound ridiculous or facetious here, but honestly, absolutely nothing. Absolutely nothing. I have nothing to be hopeful about anymore. My best friend had been screwing me over for months. My family hates me because I'm gay. I hate myself for a thousand different reasons. Like, I don't really have anything to be hopeful about anymore. I'm just waiting to die.
I'm sorry to hear that for you. I hope you can stumble upon, create, or be gifted a life you feel is worth living. I hope you find a good reason to hope.
I just have a bad track record on trusting people. I thought I broke that recently. I was wrong. Combine that with that broken trust snowballing into severe financial problems where I might be homeless? I'm out of hope.
Hey, friend. Just remember that broken trust speaks ill of them, not you. And as for a bad track record, I find that the most trusting people are also the most trustworthy. Right now that's pretty much all I know about you, but it's enough to believe you're making the world around you better. I don't think your problem is trust, but rather being in a position where broken trust leaves you in an untenable situation.
I don't know your reasons for hating yourself. Those belong to you. But whatever they are, whether they are valid or not, you don't deserve hate. Hell, I wouldn't waste my time hating anyone — hate has never solved a single problem. Give yourself some grace and room to make mistakes and improve. And then to stumble and do it again. We all have.
No lie, part of life is just luck, and for that part I hope yours is good. But the rest of it is in your hands, and those sound like decent hands to be in.
I appreciate it, but it's all based off of only a small bit of information that you're aware of. I suck. I hate myself. I have a reason to hate myself. I have almost no value for the rest of humanity in general. So while I do appreciate it, it's not true for me.
I mean I've felt that way before, too. In my case, when I'm not on my ADHD meds, I'm truly a worthless person, contributing nothing at work, waiting around to get fired, etc. I also needed my wife and family to unlock my self-worth in other ways, but that's a lot more personal and fraught. Maybe there is something that can unlock your worth however you choose to measure it. Good luck, bother.