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I've been a tomboy from a young age. My friends have always been guys, and I developed a dislike for being around other girls around age 10-11 because the people who bullied me were all girls.

When I was a teenager, I kept hearing that girls and women supposedly have a strong "fishy" smell. I know it's a meme, but I'd seen and read enough firsthand stories that it stuck with me. I even came across accounts from gay men who said that every woman they knew smelled that way, and that it influenced their attraction to men.

In my case, I seem to be an exception. There's no fishy smell on myself, just normal skin or sweat when I'm active, or at night when I'm due to shower. But that actually made me even more uncomfortable around groups of girls and women, because I really hate the smell of fish or seafood in general, and if there's a lot of women in a room, that smell lingers even after they've left.

Sometimes I feel embarrassed, because people see me, see that I'm female, and I worry they automatically assume I've got a rotting crab factory somewhere.

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[–] Polkira@piefed.ca 1 points 5 minutes ago* (last edited 3 minutes ago)

I'm going to respond seriously in case this is a serious post:

Typically the "fishy" smell comes from Bacterial Vaginosis, which is an imbalance of bacteria that can be caused by several factors. It's not common in healthy vaginas and if yours smells like fish then I recommend seeing a doctor and having it treated. Most women do not have a foul odour down there, especially not one that you can smell through clothes while keeping normal social distances.

You can't believe everything you've read on the internet. Also, it sounds like the men you're getting your information from are either prepetuating this myth unintentionally, or are very immature and think they're funny (they're not). I recommend going out and actually interacting with women, there are plenty of women out there who are also not girly that have similar interests to you. They won't smell any different than a man would.

The best way to overcome your preconceived notions about others is by genuinely interacting with those people. I'm sorry you were bullied, but just as jerks exist in all genders, so do kind and awesome people.

Edit: I forgot to actually answer your question, no this is not a normal thing to worry or think about. It might be time to seek professional help.

I have never met a woman who smells like fish, if you're worried about body odor get an antibacterial body wash, you'll be fine

[–] socsa@piefed.social 8 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

Your gay friends were having a chuckle. Women don't smell like fish from any appreciable distance unless there's a serious hygiene issue. And then it's more like regular BO with a bit of a twang.

[–] Suck_on_my_Presence@lemmy.world 20 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

Bruh - I'm tomboy, was raised to out-compete other boys, and am gay as can be.

The only time there's ever been a fishy smell that's been noticable above clothing was from someone with an infection, which is usually caused by poor hygiene. Sometimes that smell can linger, especially in a washroom if their bits have been exposed.

The only other thing I can think of is if someone has been menstruating into a pad that's overdue for a change? Blood and the whole mucus and others that come from a woman can give a pretty horrible scent. But that's gotta be so rare, and again, usually coincides with poor hygiene practices.

Everyone has a different scent (and taste), but it's so rare (unless you're between another's legs) that you'll smell it. Those jokes are in poor taste just like small dick jokes are. Men are just as capable of smelling awful down there, too. No one gender is particularly prone to stank more than the other.

So if you have at least okay hygiene practices and you're not trying to paint the walls with your vagina, you're fine.

[–] village604@adultswim.fan 2 points 3 hours ago

In my experience, there's definitely a difference between period smells and dirty vagina smells. But like you said, basic hygiene pretty much makes it a non-issue.

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 50 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

I think you've already spent more emotional energy on this concept than anyone should.

I highly doubt that anyone is thinking about that at all during normal interactions.

[–] CmdrShepard49@sh.itjust.works 24 points 4 hours ago

Excuse the pun but something certainly seems fishy about this post. Surely at some point in their life, OP would have been in a room with women and discovered this wasnt true.

They also keep talking about how this is something they've heard and read about but then later say they've had to leave the room when a lot of women are around because of the smell lingering.

[–] Forester@pawb.social 9 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

You don't force your nose up women's skirts and take lung filling drags? /S

[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 8 points 4 hours ago

Only if I have consent!

[–] Nurse_Robot@lemmy.world 38 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Some people with vaginas have very poor hygiene habits, and can develop an unflattering smell down south. That being said, you typically need to be very close to the source of that smell before you would be aware of it.

[–] sem@piefed.blahaj.zone 1 points 40 minutes ago

So there's this blind man, right?

[–] Tramort@programming.dev 17 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Honestly this sounds like mental illness in the person perceiving these smells, maybe with a little bit of OCD.

In all seriousness I suggest that you speak with a doctor about this.

[–] Melobol@lemmy.ml 4 points 4 hours ago

Second this. If this post is not a troll one - then thus post screaming for help.
Too many things, imaginary smells, social pressure of jokes and disassociation of "I'm not like the other girls".
You can be girl or boy or whatever in between, or none of those - but you are no more special than all the humans around you. Not one bit.
Therapy, education and meditation needed.

[–] TheTechnician27@lemmy.world 23 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (2 children)

This sounds like body dysmorphia, to be blunt.

[–] Montagge@lemmy.zip 4 points 4 hours ago (1 children)
[–] TheTechnician27@lemmy.world 4 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

Well when you put it that convincingly, assuming women's vaginal odor is supernaturally pronounced and something everyone you meet is unrealistically preoccupied with and disgusted by – a belief plausibly tied into childhood trauma – doesn't sound like body dysmorphia at all.

I'll put up the DSM-V's criteria here which are similar to the ICD-11's.

I don't see anything else better describing this (C)*, and it evidently causes significant distress (B), because a) they're saying it does, and b) this mindset would obviously be highly distressing.

(A) is slightly complicated by the fact that, in this paranoia, she thinks she's the exception among women. It's still a deeply negative, unhealthy preoccupation with a body part that she thinks she's constantly judged by others for but in reality probably never has been; I think any psychologist would recognize this as a minor variation on typical BDD.

* There might be comorbid gender dysphoria, but that doesn't fully explain this specific paranoia.

[–] Suck_on_my_Presence@lemmy.world 4 points 4 hours ago

Or some form of OCD like tendencies. Definitely not normal

[–] Forester@pawb.social 18 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

Wow that's a lot to unpack. Um fellas is my nose broken? I've never experienced this. Like I've smelled sweaty hot bo pussy but not to the extent OP seems to think it aboundntly permiates and lingers.

[–] village604@adultswim.fan 2 points 3 hours ago

I have a few times, but it wasn't until my face was in her crotch that I noticed.

[–] Stacyasks@lemmy.cafe 2 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (5 children)

From the accounts I’ve read and heard, the smell was so strong that people could notice it even after a girl or woman simply bent over in front of them (while clothed) or shifted her weight in her seat (again, while clothed), small movements like that were enough for it to be detected from across the room.

There's a well-known joke about this, the one where a blind man walks past a fish market and says, "Good morning, ladies."

[–] sem@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 30 minutes ago* (last edited 30 minutes ago)

This joke is from the song "Colt 45" by afroman, a hilarious and probably sexist classic party rap. It is funny because it is highly exaggerated. If it were true it wouldn't be a joke.

As Afroman says, "I got a gang of this shit".

I highly recommend listening to the whole tune, and singing along with your friends.

🎵🎶Colt 45, and two zig zags, baby that's all we need,
We can go to the park, after dark, smoke that tumbleweed,
As the marijuana burns, we can take our turns, singing them dirty rap songs,
Stop, and hit the bong like Cheech & Chong, it will take you from here to Hong Kong,
So roll, roll, roll my joint, pick out the seeds and steems,
I'm gettin high as hell, rollin through Palm Dale, skatin' on Dayton rims.
So roll, roll, the '83, Caddilac Coupe DeVille,
If my tapes and my CDs just don't sell, I guess my caddy will. 🎶🎵

[–] Hegar@fedia.io 2 points 2 hours ago

It sounds like you're giving too much credence to what mysogynists and incels say on the internet.

[–] Forester@pawb.social 14 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

I mean I'm sure it can happen but that seems far from normal. You would need a perfect storm of warm humid air, forced air circulation to the area, severe hygiene issues compounding on infection and PH problems.

You can trust my nose I'm a Dog 🐕‍🦺

[–] tyrant@lemmy.world 12 points 5 hours ago

I'm old and have never experienced a lady smelling "fishy". Don't worry about this. There's definitely better things to worry about.

[–] Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago)

Why do you care so much what other people say? Have you ever noticed this smell yourself?

I've personally never experienced any smell nor even this talk you say that "people say".

[–] borf@lemmynsfw.com 17 points 5 hours ago

if there’s a lot of women in a room, that smell lingers even after they’ve left.

I could only see this being true if it was a small room and they were all masturbating. Or, if one of them had a particularly bad infection or something, in which case that's just a sign someone needs to go to the doctor.

I've never in my life smelled 'fishy' smells from a woman whose vulva my face wasn't touching.

[–] Solumbran@lemmy.world 11 points 4 hours ago

The fishy smell comes from a bacterial problem, it's not normal, just common

[–] zxqwas@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

It's probably unusual to feel that way. How much you should worry about it depends on how much you feel like it gets in the way of your life.

If it makes you feel any better I've never smelled anyting like that on a woman with reasonable hygiene standards.

You should smell some ripe balls and unwashed, poorly wiped ass. You'd never think about vaginal odor again. The emphasis on 'fishy' smell thing always crept out of the most misogynistic people from what I could tell, because it boils women down to their only "useful" feature, rather than concern about their health. "How dare you not keep your snatch in a state that pleases me!" ...despite not being asked or invited.

[–] starlinguk@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago

I had an odd smell. My mother also kept telling me off because I "didn't change my underwear."

When the pain started when I was a student it turned out I'd had a bad infection for years.

[–] Assassassin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Jesus fucking Christ are you back to making fishy pussy posts again? You already posted this same sentiment like 20 times last month.

[–] Hegar@fedia.io 2 points 2 hours ago

Are you sure? The users post history goes back 2 months and doesn't show any.

[–] theywilleatthestars@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Think the fishy smell thing comes from men who see women as vaginas with some other stuff attached.

[–] village604@adultswim.fan 5 points 3 hours ago

No, it's a real thing that can happen with poor hygiene, but it's almost never strong enough to smell unless you basically have your head down there.

It's certainly not strong enough to smell from across the room unless the woman hasn't cleaned themselves in an extended period of time, at which point it would probably be overshadowed by her armpits.

[–] voidsignal@lemmy.world 0 points 4 hours ago

I kept hearing that girls and women supposedly have a strong “fishy” smell

wtf?