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I don't. Been single for almost 10 years now. Tried online dating for 8 of those 10 years with absolutely no luck. Made things worse by renting a garage "apartment" so I could live closer to my job which is way out in old rich people land...
So I just gave up and accepted that I'll be single living in someone else's garage/basement until I decide I've had enough and walk deep into the woods somewhere to "flip the off switch" as it were.
You talk to them.
It's that simple. But you have to do it. They aren't going to talk to you. Especially if you are a single male.
Church
Dating apps. They suck, but there's a lot you can do (without paying money) to improve your odds.
Go to meetups. They exist for hobbies (board games, running, bird watching) and regions (North Brooklyn hangout). Don't go cruising but go for the thing and meet people.
Join a rec sport league. There's a bunch of soccer ones here.
If you live somewhere shitty, you're going to have a worse time. I live in a big city so there's a lot of people doing stuff. If I lived out in the sticks, there might be a dozen people of my desired age and gender(s) total.
Uh oh, the people who don’t want to hear that moving to a city is better for dating arent going to be happy with your answer hahaha
Well, they can be unhappy about it but that doesn't change how you'll have more chances of meeting a partner where there's more people doing more stuff.
Exactly. They’ve tried nothing and they’re out of ideas.
Play pinball
You'd have to be some sort of wizard to get good at that!
"Hi, my name is.."
Admittedly, most of my friends are made at work, however it's not impossible to meet people in other places. It really just boils down to going places other people are, smiling, and saying "Hello" or "Cool " to a lot of people. If you're at a store and see someone struggling to load their car or truck, ask if you can give them a hand.
Probably will go no further than that most of the time, however, it might just make their day. Which they will remember. Might have been the first compliment they've gotten in a while. Might have been the first time anyone has offered to help them without asking anything in return.
Ever now and then, though, you'll find yourself with a new friend with a common interest. Probably just for the moment, but if you see them again, say "hi" again. If you've got something you think is cool that they might also find interesting, perhaps show it off.
And remember their name. It can help to work it into the conversation. Seriously, Bonje. People like hearing their own name in friendly contexts.
Relationships are really just a longer term version of this with people you already have met.
If this sounds a bit like sales, you ain't half wrong. What you are selling is you. The payment you are asking for their time, their attention.
Don't be pushy. Accept no as an answer. But say "hello" to everyone.
Yep. Meeting people is boring and hard and most people are not going to be interested in interacting with you. But some will. And you will get to know them and maybe you will not be interested in them. That's fine.
The problem is people take stuff so personally. And also they don't like the 'deliberate' nature of adult relationships, because in college/school you're basically forced to socialize and befriend people. As an adult, it's entirely optional.
I spent a good few hours every day on a dating site, making sure to really read through profiles and think of something interesting and engaging to talk about. I might've just been lucky, but I got a good amount of responses despite my less-than-ideal looks. Found one girl I clicked with, and 9 years later she's now my wife.
Since you're here I'll assume you're a nerd and suggest getting into Magic:the Gathering. You can learn to play on Arena for free and then buy a pre-made commander deck. At that point you can go to local game stores and ask when they have open play nights. The nice thing about magic is that the games take a long time to play so there're a lot of opportunities to socialize with the people you play with and people nearby. Similarly if you can find an active Killer Queen cabinet around you those people are always desperate for players and it's super fun
If you're less of a nerd dance classes are more active and likewise force you to be in an intimate space with someone which will usually force you to socialize. You seem opposed to bars but karaoke crowds tend to be the same week after week, and you have to wait your turn, so it's another socialization venue
I really only meet people through work.
And most all of my rare social events are with friends I've had for 30 years.