No Stupid Questions

Theory:

People on Lemmy self select to be here, usually as a direct backlash to prevailing Reddit culture, management or behaviour.

Evidence: https://lemmy.world/post/41398418/21528414

Reddit is mainstream, discoverable, friction free for the masses.

OTOH, there is small (albeit deliberate) friction in engagement here, that hearkens back to USENET days. It's analog, messy and human. There are some bots here (to be sure) so I don't know how long the Golden Age of Lemmy will exist, but clearly this space was designed by someone who knows the old magics. It shows.

Therefore, if you posit an inverse correlation between "is an utter cunt" and "wants to interact on niche social media forum called Lemmy", I think you'd have a safe bet.

It's not a hard gate by any means, but it gambles (correctly IMESHO) on friction keeping the biggest trolls away. The ROI for being a cunt is demonstrably higher on Reddit, Tiktok etc. Bigger bucket.

Result: Lemmy is a nicer place to visit. For now.

Also, yes: I am Australian. Does it show? Cunt cunt cunty cunt cuntington III.

You're doing good, but both "ingen av bedriften din" (no one of your company) and "dette er ikke din sak" (this is not your case) is equally wrong. Both are saying English phrases in Norwegian, which makes it sound strange. This is the closest I can think of in the early morning fog of mind: "Ha'kke du no' med" - østlandsk "Har ikke du noe med" - bokmål

Instead of translating English phrases, I'd recommend trying to look up Norwegian phrases and see if any fits your need.

It depends on your communities. There are plenty of proudly toxic people on the fediverse.

honestly I spent most of my time on reddit on specific communities and people were generally nicer when gathered about a particalur topic like an mmo or an rpg system. So can't say I encountered all that many bad reddit folks.

Reddit is big enough that it’s a microcosm of humanity. The Fediverse hasn’t reached that level yet.

When I was on Reddit, most of the subreddits I hung out on were small, supportive, and friendly. A few I monitored weren’t — on purpose, so I could see what was going on in other places.

Funny thing is, for the most part, I’ve found matches for all those subreddits on Lemmy communities— although I had to browse through a bunch of hosting services to build up the same level of diversity.

Reddit is full of angsty teenagers, bots, and American leftists that hate their dads. Sometimes they're all the same account.

Hope you find more friendly folks here 🫡

Sadly i think thats just people. Ive also seen it on smaller places like here on lemmy

I’ve had a couple interactions that left me feeling pretty meh. Idk.

People tend to be assholes. The more people in one place, the lower the chance of nobody being an asshole, and it does usually only take one. Then you add the karma system, which causes people to perform for the internet points. It's not just people being a natural asshole for any number of reasons: people also reward the wrong things such as asshole behavior, Redditsplaining, zingers and stupid cringeworthy clichés. The karma factor is lower here, but still a thing.

Don't worry, there are pockets of rude people on here, too. Because that culture is spilling over everywhere.

I'm pretty sure the ratio of rude people in the entire user base isn't the same when comparing the two platforms, so that plays a role too. However, I think it's mostly a numbers game. Even if that ratio was the same, a bigger platform automatically means that you're going to bump into a lot of rude people there. Think of it like this: If the ratio is just just 1%, that's 1 in a small place and 100 in a big one.

On top of that, people tend to remember negative encounters very well. Even if you got only 1 nasty comment, it's going to sting. If you got 100 comments like that, you'll feel like the whole world is out there to get you. The human mind has this strange bias towards negative reactions.

Redditeers are the bottom of the barrel.

Why are people so rude on Reddit

Yes.

Keep in mind that nice people have learned their lesson. Most people don't take critique kindly, especially when it comes to grammar. And it's often best to just keep your mouth shut, and worry about your own problems.

Cultures/conventions are assumption-rivers, aka "religions".

Toxic-culture's a habit, an ideology, a "religion", a self-reinforcing-feedback-mechanism, & a kind of "food" for ones who want that particular substance.

Once entrenched, it's nearly-impossible to change a culture.

Chaning a culture generally requires focus+action both at the top AND grass-roots.

Without both, nothing'll change, usually.

( without grassroots, nothing'll change, no matter what the leader wants/does )

& Reddit's CEO has paid himself $1/8B IN A SINGLE YEAR, while Reddit wasn't in profit, so DarkTriad's their corporate-culture, fersure, in my opinion.

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