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Turning 46 in May. My oldest son is 22, was 24 when he was born. I feel pretty fucking weird. But they both adults so technically not illegal and depending on gender won't be seen as strange.
None of my business, they're consenting adults, they can do whatever they want, and it's honestly a bit creepy that you're asking our opinion about it.
When I was in my 20s, I viewed people in their 40s-50s as parental or even grandparently figures. As an older person, I would be open to dating someone in their 20s if we had a great connection, but I wouldn't make a move unless they expressed an interest first because I wouldn't want to be creepy or make them uncomfortable.
There are a mountain of realizations,experience and personal admiration choices in-between those ages. In my experience, I can't look past that over a kinship with a younger individual.
I think they are both stupid and shortsighted, but feelings aren’t supposed to be rational and it’s also none of my business or anyone else’s.
I'm not your dad, do whatever you want.
I'm not going to say anything or conspire against them, but it does give me the ick.
Meh, go have fun.
I literally don't care unless it's me, and it probably wouldn't be.
Both people in a relationship should be mature enough to make an informed decision which should be the case once you hit your mid twenties. However, if you have a larger age gap both of you should encourage greater scrutiny into your relationship and motives. People may question why and both of you should consider reasonable answers.
It would be very hypocritical of me to care much about it. So I'd wish them luck and to know it won't be easy.
I’m going to go with bad, it makes me feel bad
My age gap is only 9 years but I was 22 at the time and I turn 40 this year and looking back I’m thinking “where were all the adults who were supposed to give me good advice??” Instead of encouraging me into a wildly imbalanced relationship which has been incredibly damaging to me
It's legally fine. The 25 year old doesn't know better. I'll judge the heck out of the 46 year old.
Gross. It would take a lot to convince me there isn't a power imbalance. Those are 2 significantly different life stages. I would never be able to trust the older person here.
As long as both of them getting a good deal out of it, sure. Honestly a 25yo is still pretty easy to take advantage of.
And I kinda agree with the saying: there is a reason why the older one isn't with their age group. Those know better.
Sugar mommy or sugar daddy?
It might be fine for the moment but if the relationship stays long term it will be hard when one partner starts to like age and degrade a lot quicker than the other. In the end one might be ill and on the way to death while the other one has quite a bit of time ahead of them. I think that can strain a relationship in the long run
With my hands.
there's a rule of thumb: absolute MINIMUM age is half your age + 7. which would make the minimum 30
its pretty wierd, i knew a former co-worker in another job she was 29, dating a 45-46yo, of course the mom was pissed because hes almost as old as her(long story why the mom was involved). also because such a huge gap, and life experience too. maybe 5-10years is okay, but almost 15-20yo your senior.
also the huge gap in life experience, a 25yo might not have a career yet, family, children, while a 45yo more than likely experience multiple partners and have career,,,etc. also its a POWER imbalance too.
mostly nothing
i wouldn't find anything common with a 25 year old myself. i think it would be less of an issue if the younger was 30+. obviously the older you are the wider the acceptable gap. once both parties are 35+ i think the gap doesn't matter at all.
I have had wider age gaps than that. It’s fine. Btw I date older women I’m not Jeffrey Epstein