This is more sad and pathetic than anything. But this is the result of toxic masculinity.
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It is extremely sad. and it isn't just a toxic masculinity thing (maybe only for porn bots). we are so atomised and isolated.
I remember when GPT came out, told it about my projects and it responded as if it cared. I knew ot was bs, and in retrospect it was sad and pathetic, but I genuinely cried at seeing text directed to me that was nice.
I'm in a better place now, but we as a society are way too atomised and isolated.
What are your projects?
But this is the result of toxic masculinity
Is this also the result of toxic masculinity or does it just go one way?
The women in love with AI companions: ‘I vowed to my chatbot that I wouldn’t leave him’
https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2025/sep/09/ai-chatbot-love-relationships
Toxic masculinity is a cultural mindset. Men should not be talking about their feelings because it's weak and "gay" says society.
That's what I'm going for.
trying talking about your feelings as a man and see how society reacts...
spoiler: it won't be pleasant.
sort of like how these men in the article are talking about their feelings...
fair enough
To riff off of Margret Atwood, men go to AI chatbots because they won't laugh at them. Women go to AI chatbots because they won't kill them.
did you read the article? this doesn’t seem related at all
No, they are just here to spout cliche gender war bullshit about how men are awful for existing.
and if you asked them about women on male violence they'd deny it exists.
A result of modern culture I'd say. People became less human in real life, so much so that people are using robots instead.
Yeah. I have become painfully aware of this the past few years. People's obessive use of AI and social media has distorted their real life interactions to be far less substantail than they used to be.
Which is why so many people, even who are very social, are so lonely. We have created a society that does not create substantial connections anymore, and obsesses over trivialities, and endless repeats and broadcasts them as fundamental truths.
I have noticed that online, and in IRL, nobody asks each other questions anymore. What they do, is make accusations. And it's miserable and draining to be constantly accused of stuff. I feel like this shift started around 2021.
Back in 2018 I could meet a stranger and they would be like 'oh where are you from? oh cool, what was it like there, I have not been!'
now it's like 'i bet you are from x, oh you're not? well you SEEM LIKE a person from x. oh you are from y? THAT'S WEIRD. I haven't been there but i bet it's weird because you are weird.' Or they try to tell me that I can't be from y, because they KNOW i am from x. It's so bizarre. Increasingly the strangers I meet basically tell me that they know the TRUTH about me... even as I tell them that what they are saying isn't true.
I basically can't have conversations anymore, at least like I used to. I used to be able to sit there for 20-30m and talk about a single book I read to someone, and they'd ask me all about it and I'd ask them about a book they like. Now they just jump down my throat or lecture me and never ask me any questions, and switch to another topic after like a few minutes and say dismissive stuff about how books are outdated and dumb. Or even if they do like to read, they get all bent out of shape that I don't read the same type of stuff as they do.
Same with movies, same with hobbies, same with my job or my family or other stuff that I used to be able to connect with people over. Used to be a nice back and forth, now it'd dodging bullets and if you don't give the 'right' answer they get angry and dismiss you as a bad person.
And on the flip side... AI gives these people what they want. It just parrots back to them what they want to hear about how wonderful and great they are and how everything they do is amazing and valid and their life is so hard.... which is precisely what another human being is NOT going to give you...
I feel like it's a social psyop... To help forward all this crazy shit happening. It's clear Ai is an "arms race".
It seems like the psyop is to make life shitty and then promote some magical fix (Ai) that's going to save us, while it further leashes us to submission and rewrites history and current narration of what humanity is.
No it's not.
It's just the mental version of obesity crisis. It's people choosing the easy and unhealthy option because it's cheaper and readily available, than the far more difficult and more costly option of eating well and exercise.
I mean I can't disagree with that, but couldn't that BE the psyop...? Make people dumb as fuck so you can own them...
No one wants to actually listen to them. Instead of doing some self-reflection, they force a computer to "hear" their misplaced rage.
Not every guy is that way. Some just really are pathetic in the sense that they have no one to talk to. Others are like what you said.
Huh. Playboy is still around.
I always read it for the articles
Many say this as a joke but back 25 years ago it really did have interesting articles.
50 years ago, too. A sort of highly respected journalism you can't find anywhere anymore.
That reminded me to look up their interview with Saul Alinsky again, and I found a page with a bunch of the Playboy interviews: https://scrapsfromtheloft.com/playboy-interviews/
High times had some good articles back then.
Whoops, misread that as "hard."
Came here to say the same thing
that would actually make sense
I tried one just for shits a giggles awhile back to see if there is any merit to the widespread use of them. The only way you'd find these even remotely realistic or interesting is if you've never had any kind of sexual encounter with a real person before, whether in person or through text. After about five minutes of "chatting" with one of these bots it started to respond like half baked fan fiction that didn't understand the basics of sex or even anatomy. The cadence is very predictable and it tends to repeat the same wording and phrasing constantly. If you have real world experience with people, it just feels like a generic chatbot.
In my opinion, this is more proof that these people need to interact with real humans. If these chat bots seem at all human to you, you need to interact with more actual humans.
I really don't understand how anyone could want to chat with bots in general. Do people lack the ability to appreciate the genuine. It explains how you get people like trump. Who wants that kind of interaction?
There are people that suffer from isolation, anxiety, depression, trauma or a host of other issues over which they have no control or support structures to address their problems. Of course, these bots aren’t a solution but they are accessible. It’s no wonder why people would use them.
They deserve sympathy not condescension.
most of modern life isn't genuine. and yes, people don't like it when they encounter it.
they love artifice. they love their biases being confirmed, they love their egos being flattered.
The issue arises when you don't have anyone to talk to. Having something to talk, even though it's not a real person, can be enticing to sate the need to communicate with people. The problem is that people that don't have a lot of real life experience in communication fall into the trap of thinking it's better because it's always agreeable and "listens" better than normal people. To me that sounds like someone that has difficulties with oversharing and has poor social skills. What these people should actually be doing in order to feel more satisfied socially is to work on their social skills instead of only talk to chatbots that can't say no. If the types of relationships people have with chatbots were translated into human relationships most people would consider them toxic. And how many people do you know that for some reason seek out and always end up in toxic relationships?
I find AI to be a better conversation partner than humans in most circumstances. It's not perfect but it's knowledgeable about pretty much every topic and it's always fully engaged and attentive. Most people, by contrast, aren't very interesting and most interesting people are busy. Of course I would prefer to talk to someone who was also subjectively experiencing and enjoying the conversation, but I can get a lot out of a conversation even without that.
It does not understand what its saying. Its fine to summarize some searches or bring forth known best practices but I would not call what it does conversation.
Kind of feels like semantics.
Let's say I give you a discord link and tell you that half the people are bots and half aren't. Realistically, LLMs are at a level where you won't be able to tell which is which.
So what then. You are only having a conversation half the time but you can't point out when that is? Feels a bit hollow.
This probably happens on Lemmy. You probably have interactions that you qualify as conversations in your head but that are with bots.
That's because the porn bots are bullshit. You gotta finesse and woo chatgpt if you want real love.