Nah, I want someone to like me for me, not because magic.
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Absolutely, 100%, I would. Keep in mind, the premise is, that undefined magic is a thing. Ergo, there is no moral conflict, since the bewitched counterpart's feelings would then be genuine. Again: Magic. Is. A. Thing.
I'm pretty sure she likes me already. Enough to stick around for the last 25+ years, anyway.
39+ years here. I think after another 21 years, I can be sure.
sometimes I forget how old people are on Lemmy lol
No. I don't want to screw with freedom of other people like that
There already is no freedom in it. Whether you like someome or not isn't for you to choose. You either do or you don't.
Does it really matter if she likes you because she is genetically or socially preconditioned to think you're handsome?
Or she is randomly attracted to your pheromones?
Or you randomly share an interest?
Or whatever other random thing causes it?
Or that she likes you because you want her to?
Provided she still is allowed to decide for herself whether she wants to be with you.
Because people can like each other, without wanting to be together for other reasons.
Emotionally I agree that yes it matters, but I find it less easy to argue the point rationally.
It's much better to be with someone who picked you back.
forcing someone to love you is unethical whether you use magic or just normal manipulation
What if the wish functions by cranking up your charisma score and making you cool / funny / whatever, functioning as a self-buff rather than an effect on another person?
On the one hand, you kind of are making yourself a lie of sorts, which is unethical.
On the other hand, presumably the magic is permanent and that's just the new you, forever, so it's not a lie. You've just changed your personality to fit their desire/needs.
So much in the way that Aladdin became a prince via phenomenal cosmic power, he really was a prince and not a fake prince, and therefore never really lied to jasmine about that (he just about literally any part of his past as a prince, since he wasn't until yesterday), because genie magic isnt some cheap parlor trick.
So yeah, as long as you are the one permanently changing and you don't lie about it then I guess that's okay with me.
Well I don't know, if that's the way you want to be it's not really a lie. That's all stuff you could do without magic, it's just more work
No.
My immediate reaction is that if it's not genuinely sincere, it's meaningless.
It doesn't really matter if that's true or not - the mere fact that that was my first reaction means that it's a doubt that would continue to haunt me, and that's more than enough of a problem all by itself.
Can I have magic that fixes non-romantic relationships like sibling relations or like parent-child relations or like just friendships?
Can I have magic that make every country like each other and end all human conflicts?
I’ve been married to my crush for over 25 years. I’m happy with what we’ve already got. Even when they don’t like me all that much. There’s usually a reason and it’s me that has to change.
Imagine living your life with someone who liked you even when they clearly shouldn’t. You’d lose not only the best parts of them but also the best parts of yourself.
No, I want him obsessed with me. I want drawbacks. I want him so in love with me I'm terrified for my safety.
Mirai Nikki 👀
(That Anime was weird ngl... the dude getting locked away from his friends thing... and the whole cage thing at the home... and the corpses... idk wtf I watched tbh)
Nah, I'd do it the other way around. To actually have a crush myself and notice it.
I'm taken, but at another time, sure.
I'm married, so I don't envision anything good coming from that. I'm not the type to be dangerously tempted, but it's still best if the option to cheat doesn't even arise.
Yes, because I might not get a good chance to ask out AOC and/or Hannah Fry, otherwise. And obsessed is fine!
Yes. Because, there's a friend who I know we'd mesh well together.