The "Why is nobody joining my games on X-Box?" answer guide.
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Fifth category: Everybody has forgotten about YOU, and you essentially no longer exist.
Bottom right
There's also the "still acting like they're 16 years old" and they're as bad if not worse than all the other cathegories
40s is the same, but one of them is dead
I was going to say: There's no space for dead, moved to Austin in the 10s, or crippling pain killer addiction.
I'm number four. I mean, I was. Those people have probably all forgotten about me by now.
It is a peaceful life.
I beg to differ.
I'm absorbed mostly in work but also a little bit of 3, however the "something" is merely trying to stave off a heart attack and premature physical degradation in general, and not so much some grand lofty fitness goal.
And also 4. The amount of negativity that entered my brain through social media reached critical mass during the early stages of Covid and I axed pretty much all of it and never returned.
you guys still got friends?
When the definition of "friend" is "person you hung out with in HS/College and then only ever associated with via the computer", maybe you don't.
Box 4, in particular, is a really depressing rubric for friendship as it assumes a person vanishes the moment they stop providing new content on Social Media. I've got friends who occupy the first three quadrants simultaneously, but we still keep in touch by SMS and by actually visiting one another on a regular basis. We're 100% logged the fuck off past that.
#4
You know, for about a decade, everyone was pushed to share everything they did on social media. It was a mistake. It was a mistake on the scale of cigarettes and smoking inside and in airplanes and in hospitals and in schools. No one thought it was a stupid idea, and a lot of people pushed it as the only way to get jobs and show you're a clever chimp that can internet so hard because interneting hard was the cool new thing.
Lower right is the hangover from that. Anyone I didn't find or didn't find me between 2008 and 2018 wasn't ever worth connecting with. The people that did find me were nice to hear from once, and we haven't talked ever again, despite being connected, for 10+ years.
My grandparents and their parents, etc. went their whole lives never seeing people again and not knowing what happened to them because they moved one time and they didn't know their new address. Whole movies were about that. Elvis had a song about that. The last episode of the first season of The Real World ended with everyone moving out of the apartment, and once that landline and address no longer went to those people, it was 100% possible that those people would be gone from each others' lives forever.
Y'all, we're not supposed to collect and keep 27,000 casual contacts throughout our lives. It's unnatural. Our brains are not built for it. We're made to have a few dozen up to 100-ish close connections that mean something, including family you don't pick.
Email some old friends you don't text with daily. Send anyone you truly care about an email to say hi. If they respond, then great. If not, don't worry about it. Enjoy high fidelity communications with those who mater to you.
We are not built to drink milk beyond infancy, yet we do. We are not built to cross oceans in a few hours, wake up in one time zone and fall asleep in another, yet we do. We are not built to eat ice cream on a scorching summer afternoon or preserve food for months and experience flavors from far away, yet we do.
The argument that something is "unnatural" has always struck me as incomplete, because humanity's defining trait is that we are not merely shaped by nature, we reshape our relationship with it. We build tools, cultures, institutions, and technologies that allow us to transcend many of the constraints our ancestors lived under.
That does not mean every new capability is wise or healthy. Some inventions enrich our lives; others burden us in ways we only understand decades later. But the fact that something exceeds the limits of our evolutionary past is not, by itself, an argument against it.
Human flourishing has always depended less on the number of people we can reach and more on the depth of the few relationships that truly matter. I miss having many Facebook friends (some I have never physically met) and seeing their life updates every once in a while, because now we all think Facebook is no longer cool.
Gen Z here. Burnt out of social media. Deleted every mainstream social media app. If you want the fastest way to never ever hear from me, it would be email. That shits incredibly overwhelming. I check my physical mailbox more than I check my email. The goal is to get away from the computer.
Based perspective on this, thank you. :)
Option E: "Walking around in the woods"
It's kinda like washing reality off with the reality you can't have.
Have a few who check 3 of those boxes
Shit I am all of them.
Is there a 5th option for "life is already over"?
I am on the right side of this picture.
Here I am going strong in the bottom right!
I'm loving how many bottoms there are in this thread
Same, I’ve come to realize life is best alone. Solitude is the best dude.
Bottom right for a few years now, but it really only applies if social media is the only way you can think of to get in contact.
The disappeared ones. I'm one of those.
I'll tell you what we are up to. We are
Yikes! You can't just tell people about the
People are disappearing left and right! I need to tell the world about this before
I'm the bottom right except no insta, no FB, etc. and only an email address.
....and a Lemmy account
A piefed account more technically, but yes. I technically have a lot of minor forum-like accounts around the web, but no crossover with my IRL friends, nor do I think I would enjoy interacting with them via these platforms.
Im checking three of the four quadrants. I work to much, I havea too many kids and I have dropped most of my social contacts intentionally. And im usually constantly angry i don't have the discipline to train consistently to stay fit. Currently I'm also not healthy enough to work out, waiting for a doctors appointment to hopefully fix that shit.
I'm happily none of the above.
You're on Lemmy, you're the bottom right corner
Not really though. I haven't been on the big social media platforms in forever, even during my 20s I was already gone. That doesn't withhold you from visiting parties, chilling with friends, going places, etc. The only big platform that I'm still on is WhatsApp, because it's the main way to message people here, and that's how you can go places. But I haven't go Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, TikTok, and whatever the fuck people use to consume ads nowadays
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I wish I had arranged my finances better so I could live the dream of being bottom right in a nice very functional house in the forest, with enough self-reliance and supplies to last for months and months without poking my head out of my shell.
A distinct lack of "drugs/degeneracy" category
Such a liberating feeling to finally understand that you're not bound to follow some externally plotted life trajectory...
... and just debase.
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