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I agree on this. I just commented on my AvPD, which makes social contacts ... complicated (just look in my comment history).
I haven''t been without a partner since i was 18. Im 46 now, and newly out of a relationship (but we had a good run). I never actually tried to flirt with anyone. The only thing i really did is to listen well, make appropriate compliments and give my input. I don't even look good, I've been a fat fuck since childhood and a nerd on top. I've even had to turn down advances a few times.
The hardest message you will ever try to get someone to digest, particularly straight cis men, is that appearances are secondary in dating and relationships.
I have been using examples of how our minds reinterpret visual appearances and how subjective our whole world is for decades, and still most guys who are overexposed to dating forums and men's communities will absolutely rage at the idea that it's not their physique or jawline that will make someone attracted to them, but how they make someone else feel.
And right now, people I talk to in younger generations are pretty honest when they tell me that they have no idea how to make someone feel good around them, that the very idea terrifies them, and it varies from abject rejection of the notion to responses that it feels like "manipulation" to make someone comfortable around you... so is it any wonder people are basically giving up all over the world, and new relationships and sexual encounters are basically flatlining everywhere.