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I do all those things though. What else can I do? You love the men in your life, but you fear me, the strange man you don't know. And I do everything you think a good man should do. You're still afraid of me. I don't know what you want from me? Do you want me to kill myself or something? I feel like I'm being gaslit.
At some point you have to realize your making assumptions about everyone and you're just as biased and flawed as everyone else and you are only seeing through a keyhole.
You think you've thought this all through and I promise you haven't. If you have you can tell me one objective fact that supports your stance. Else you're just telling me you're irrationally afraid and cannot articulate why. Because your fight or flight gets triggered when sense of identity gets challenged. It feels like someone if coming at you with a knife. That's where hard internal questions need to be asked.
When did I say you make me feel that way? You just put words in my mouth too. We're miscommunicating.
Yes they are. And your refusal to admit men can feel fear about women is amazingly sexist. Sounds like you think it's impossible for women to present a threat to a man.
I've got an amazing piece of news for you. Not all men are a monolith. Just because the only men you've had in your life suck doesn't mean all men suck.
That's like saying I ate rotten bread. Thus all bread is rotten.
That's ableism. I'm autistic and don't process or communicate that way, and have time blindness. I'm sorry I made you feel like I put you in an unfair situation, it was not my intent. I will try to slow down and be more careful about making edits when talking to you specifically. I wouldn't want you to feel like I'm being unfair to you.
I will proof read more carefully for the rest of this particular thread.
And then sadly I will probably forget we had this conversation after it concludes. But I still will have appreciated it while it lasted. ♥️
I suggest you consider that not everyone has your life experience and developed the same communication skills. I think what you just said to me was far ruder than anything I said to you because I am not trying to be rude and you are. You're coming at me with emotion instead of facts.
Additionally, it seems like you are reacting completely with your id, and have a weak grasp of iterative logic.
Probably rooted in past trauma. I hope you feel better. Take care.
It just clicked I think! I never said it's women's fault. When did I say that? I think that might have been projection on your part possibly?
Its called miscommunication. We are clearly talking past each other and I'm trying to find you. I have no idea. So I keep asking questions till I figure out where you are so I can learn from you. I can't learn from you without understanding you first. Perhaps you can ask me some smaller incremental questions?
Yeah, I mirrored your behavior. You're too self unaware to see it. Not a failure on my part, I cannot understand for you. You have to want to understand instead of just assuming you know everything. You haven't considered the possibility that other people have other perspectives and may have spotted something you missed.
You're a poor excuse for a rational thinker, and that's objectively true from my eyes. You cannot hurt my feelings because to me it's clear that you do not understand what you are doing and saying.
You are just afraid and lashing out because your ego is under threat, which feels like you're being assaulted.
Where did I claim men don't pose a threat to women? Quote me.
Isn't that true too?