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I think the only time I cat-called women was when I was 10yo while playing football (soccer) in the neighborhood. The girls (~15yo I'd guess) looked back and I went red as a tomato in embarrassment.
Fast forward some years later, when I had long hairs, as I was arriving at school, someone horned at me and cat-called me. I turned around the the pair of idiots saw that I was a dude. They didn't speed up and I felt that, were I smaller or had a more meek outlook, they would call me gay, sissy, etc, before moving on.
So, it feels like cat calling is a power play against the target.
I do wish people could be honest about what they think, but in a civilized manner. I wish I could just tell a girl or woman I find her pretty without coming off as a creep, weirdo or flirty.
Please don’t conflate catcalling with approaching people respectfully to open the door to dating. They’re very, very different situations.