this post was submitted on 13 May 2026
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Hear Me Out: This capitalist/traditional attitude towards dating radicalized men into the manosphere. For the last three years this anti-"modern women"/anti-feminism movement has been rising across the internet; and about 75% of their resentment is just about distaste toward dating apps and paying to take a girl out for dinner.
For years I was laughing at ( and then after they helped Trump's re-election, ripping my hair out over ) their complete refusal/inability to see any other alternatives to connect with people besides the most shallow idea of a date. Perhaps these folks just completely unimaginative, or have no personality to offer, and nothing to provide besides the traditional chivalry of this generic "provider" fallback that is unfeasible for most in this economy.
I wish I could just sit down with one of these men, and just ask them "Why not find women elsewhere?". Delete the dating apps and go find a hobby, join a volunteer organization. If you're such a "traditional conservative masculine man", go to a Catholic church or alt-right fascist rally. It's a whole lot cheaper than flying abroad to sugar-daddy at a favorable exchange rate.
Though... the article does say: "More than half of Gen Z adults reported spending $0 a month on dating in a 2025 Bank of America Better Money Habits survey." and mentions folks rejecting dating apps because they prefer real interactions...so maybe folks are waking up.
This is the same vibe as "go hand out your resume in person". I'm old enough to remember when most people didn't have dial up. Things have changed.
Things have changed especially because we all are becoming less social. Getting to know someone in person is still much more effective. Talking to strangers without pretense is however less accepted.
But it doesn't though. Dating is something you do to find people to be with IRL. Dating apps are made to keep you engaged and noy to lose customers. If you want to find someone to be with IRL, you gotta look IRL and it helps going somewhere, where people have similar interests