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I am planning to make a post on this to read peoples opinion.
Anyway...
Not hyperfixated on it but I have been thinking about how common sexualization/pornification has become, especially on women.
It raises beauty standard to unrealistic levels, and usually makes people be ashamed of their bodies.
I have also been thinking about sexual assualts . Most victims are usually young girls and women.
Male victims are ignored, as if trauma wasnt a thing that everyone no matter the gender experiences in such crimes.
It is unfortunate that female victims usually have more consequences than male victims when it comes to sexual assualts. (They risk getting pregnant.)
The fact that porn(mostly consumed by males), movies, anime, and other forms of visual media are usually optimized( hypersexualized ) for "the male gaze".
Not mentioning the dark industry behind it that only encourages sex trafficking of innocent souls.
It makes me disgusted, am I dirty for being a male?
Why are males generally more focused on physical appearance than women?
Why is the male gaze > female gaze??
I dont know, makes me feel disgusted and ashamed of myself sometimes.
Perhaps I owe women an apology on behalf of all of the mess some men are doing.
I do realize that I am generalizing alot, and there are flaws in this thought, but I cant get it out of my head.
It's also one of the reasons that encouraged me to escape porn and the dark industry behind it
I wish more men would have this conversation. I’m raising 5 sons and I decided early on to have some really blunt, uncomfortable conversations with them (age appropriate of course), to combat this. It’s worked, as far as I know. One kid, now adult, sometimes struggles with it. Porn, and toxic masculinity traits. But he talks about it openly and actively combats it.