Maybe. Maybe not. Do you prefer the sexual partner that is openly more chaotic/messy, occasionally abusive or the one that has a few normal character flaws but is otherwise wonderful, until one day you have a fever, open sores on your generalis while being completely monogamous, then get diagnosed with hsv, syphilis, antibiotic -resistant gonorrhea, and HIV with a very low t-cell count?

That said both sides probably over exaggerate the accusations and understate accomplishments of each other and reverse that for and their own.