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Deleting a post because it got downvotes? Who are these babies who can’t take people not liking them?
Sometimes down votes are a sign that you're saying things people don't want to hear or the right things but on a crazy instance, but sometimes down votes are a chance for self reflection where you have to ask yourself "Am I the asshole?" and in the latter case yeah I'm probably just going to delete it. No apologies though, I'm not looking to be a saint here.
Yeah like that time I commented on horshoe theory on a tankie sublemmy (honestly my fault. That's like smoking next to the pump at a gas station) which really pissed off a lot of tankies lol.
It doesn't even take that. Sometimes it just takes one opinion literally anywhere that one tankie sees that hurts their feelings, and they brigade away. It's totally random. I've enjoyed them doing that on shitposts and memes on sub's totally unrelated to .ml madness.
It also makes me think that there's only actually like 10 or 20 tankies that each cycle through 30 accounts each, and one guy in Beijing that runs the "Propaganda: Other Platforms" desk coordinating of all. Or maybe that's just a function of their groupthink. Hard to say.
I'm still new to Lemmy but yeah I've noticed that too. They show up anywhere they see stuff they don't like.
What's kind of fun is you can basically summon them by saying "Trotsky wouldn't have been better than Stalin" three times in a mirror.
"Numbers, math, measures, and money were all independently invented my numerous civilizations because they are all usefull things."
I mean, that's a skill issue on your side.
Yeah I'm new here if it wasn't obvious by my prior comment haha
I will say in their defense that some people delete their comments/posts not because they care about "karma" but because they now feel they were wrong and are genuinely embarrassed or think that its continued presence is just an annoyance to other people.
That said, imo, unless you realize you've broken a rule in posting it or literally just posted by accident, it's healthier for yourself and the community to simply e.g. edit in a correction and a "mea culpa", even if you continue to get dogpiled for it.
I delete them when I don't have the energy to argue with people online about things. They can be the one terminally online. I'm not chasing them down that rabbit hole. Especially when you get comment after comment replying to you and you know they don't want to argue in good faith and you're just signing up to get cyber bullied by a brick wall.
I have, in the several years I’ve been here, deleted only a handful of comments - pretty much exclusively as a result of me being in a terrible mood and/or too drunk and commenting something very stupid or dickish, then reading it the next morning and going “what the fuck was I doing 🤦♂️”. That is thankfully vanishingly rare for me lol
Everyone’s presence is annoying. That’s called being human.
Is there no one in your life whose presence you enjoy?
All the time? Fuck no. Hell, my wife and I love each other in part because we like time alone.
That's an impossible standard to achieve. Best one can do is become neutral, whatever benefits they bring balances out the burden of dealing with them.
Not who you're replying to, but.....nope.
As someone with social anxiety for some people seeing a large negative social response to something you said or did, even if just abstractly represented by a number, can be pretty distressing 🤷🏻♂️
I generally leave stuff up unless its misleading or something, but I can empathize with why someone would take it down
Half of lemmy:
I've had discussions here with people that don't want down votes, like in YouTube. There are instances that have them disabled.
The other day somebody asked me a question and I couldn't be bothered to deal with them, but later on I decided to answer in earnest and deleted the previous response.
That’s so annoying
I've seen it a few times. It's stupid. Why bother participating if you're just going to take your ball home, so to speak.
All around you.
I want to prove I'm not a baby so please downvote this comment.
Edit: please stop you're hurting my feelings
Downvote my comment, so I can share your pain. I promise I will spend at least five seconds caring.
Me too, go ahead - it doesn’t matter.
What matters is when people scan your post history and check why you were downvoted, given the context of the comment. The community here is smaller, so if you post consistently, you can actually build a meaningful organic reputation (that is: other user’s opinions of you). Karma doesn’t matter. What you post, and how you engage with other users does.
Have you seen the president, or met any of the millions of people who voted for him?