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I've noticed that there seems to be an emphasis on being extremely serious at all times, as if every single comment is a PhD dissertation being evaluated or something. There's like this weird, subtle one upmanship about every little thing and a lot of people are very nitpicky and judgmental. It kind of takes the fun out of being on here, TBH. Or am I the only one experiencing this?

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[–] manuremy@sopuli.xyz 19 points 2 days ago (33 children)

At first, I was very cautious here. After Reddit, I was expecting that people would go through post histories and attack me for misunderstandings and call me an AI bot, like some users do in sites like Reddit.. But no. I haven't had any issues, even when I have put out more controversial opinions or asked dumb questions. I have gotten downvoted occasionally when I have been wrong or misunderstood, which is fair. I have gotten replies from people with different opinions, but they have been polite and sticked in the topic, which is fucking amazing. I haven't had a single even slightly unpleasant interaction so far.

Folk here have been very helpful, polite, funny or neutral. I'm actually becoming more brave at posting and commenting, and I no longer feel fearful/unpleasant when I see that I have an unread notification. Of course there are communities I have blocked or instances that I avoid but that's just to curate my feeds.

[–] LuminousLuddite@lemmy.world 9 points 2 days ago (32 children)

For me it's the opposite. Every time I make a fresh account on here I engage a lot in the beginning while the experience is still positive, then as the replies start to feel more pointed and personal I back off more and more.

[–] Dasus@lemmy.world 13 points 2 days ago (29 children)

"Every time I make a fresh account"

Why do you need to keep making new accounts?

[–] overcast5348@lemmy.world 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Not op, but I keep deleting and creating new accounts too. It just internet hygiene at this point.

I'm from Bora Bora btw. See?

[–] Dasus@lemmy.world -1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

"Hygiene" as in "no-one would take me seriously with this comment history so time to make a new one"?

[–] overcast5348@lemmy.world 15 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Hygiene as in I don't want to get doxxed, or have someone compiling a profile on me. What do I care if a rando takes me seriously or not? 🤷‍♂️

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