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What the fuck, if I'd be your husband I'd just tell them to "talk to my wife because she knows more about cars than me".
Nah, I have a very low tolerance for a patronizing tone, but a pretty high one for being ignored, and the language barrier makes me seem even less knowledgeable, so it’s a recipe for condescension if I’m the primary communicator. My husband would love it if I let loose on them in English, but that feels like giving up a little.
We just laugh at them together afterwards and if they’re too awful, we find a new place.