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IDK, have you considered that perhaps the people demanding to be approached/questioned in a specific way are the friction point here?
Even on the nohello site, the "right" and "wrong" conversations are the exact same length (two messages each way). I genuinely struggle to see the point of any of this.
Have you ever considered that you're wasting everyone's time by not getting to the point?
Clearly, considering you didn't even check the timing on the messages and see the first one took twice as long (both in time, and in actual messages because half of the second convo are just them thanking each other)
The questions may be the same length, but what isn't the same length is the time between the initial asking and the final answer. In the first example the actual question isn't asked for 5 minutes after the initial conversation start, whereas in the second example the whole exchange is over in less than 2 minutes.
You looked at the word count but not the timestamps.
The hello is not the issue. But getting a notification before the question is.
Ultimately what happens if there's a bunch of "helloers" approaching you, you end up muting the messaging app and only check messages every X time. Rather than being available, pros and cons. And there's definitely an argument to be had, that it's the superior way of working - But hello only people, just shoot themselves in their foot and get longer time to response
I should probably clarify that it's pretty rare for me to receive a message that's literally just "hello" or "hi" followed by nothing. At the least I'll see the typing indicator so I know there's more coming, but the link in the status message just reads passive aggressive. Also - is the person that's sending you a ping or SYN really going to notice your status?
I know for a fact several did, as I've had a lot of former hello only people ask about the status through the years