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Friends and family will either listen to a point before saying they can't handle it, or some of them I wouldn't bring these problems to in the first place. When I do talk, I get tired of my response being the thing they focus on instead of the source causing my frustration. I've attempted therapy for years with varying success; after some bad experiences I can't trust therapists anymore. All anyone cares about is if my emotions are impacting them in a negative way, nobody actually gives a shit about how I am doing as long as they aren't directly inconvenienced.
Well, that's good to hear. Hopefully it helps, and I'd also suggest that it means they do care, at least a bit.
Maybe they do need to give you more time to vent, it's hard to say without being there. In general, we on the internet don't know you and can't have enough information to help you the way a therapist can.
Well couple of things, it's entirely possible your friends and family are complete assholes, but sometimes people need to ask themselves how many times have they listened to someone when they want to express their negative emotions?
My wife's cousin, her entire life she's never once lent an ear to a sad friend/family, had had the audacity to tell an aunt who lost her breasts to cancer that she just brings negative energy and wouldn't be invited to any gatherings at her house, now is suffering through a divorce and cannot fathom why the whole family kind of supports the husband and not her.