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Family and blood relation means absolutely nothing.
It's just that people decided that due to blood relation and marriages a certain set of people should not only know each other, but like each other and put up with each other's bullshit for far longer than for other groups like friends.
Meanwhile these relations are no different from being coworkers.
Similarly, lacking this blood relation doesn't matter aside from family anamnesis (and perhaps organ/bone marrow transplants), in case of adoptions.
I don't understand why people go through so much struggle for their kids to be "their own" while there's many waiting and hoping to get adopted. People don't think anything special about adopting a cat or dog, after all, there is no other way, and yet they'll fully love their pet. But suddenly when it's small humans, which is even the same specie, it matters a lot.
I don't understand if people really feel something towards having really similar DNA, but I don't see any logic in it.
Yeap.
I've written off family members due to toxicity and swore off having kids (before the economy went into the shitter).
Wife also doesn't want to have kids herself, but loves children. If we want kids I'm going to adopt in a few years. Late 40s early 50s. Aiming to provide a good home and support to one or two in need.
We might start as a foster parents.
Eh, the people you have the strongest emotional bonds with are likely the people you've spent the most time with. Logically that would be family for most people. Kinda weird obsession with blood ties their mate, don't have to be related by blood to be family.
But is family if blood related.
Strongest emotional bonds don't necessarily mean anything positive. Most time spent only applies to immediate family, like parents. Outside that you likely do spend more time with coworkers or classmates.
Sperm donor kids aren't all one big family. Family is a social construct.