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It smells like reheated puritanism in here... Glad to know the more things change, the more they stay the same.
No, it would not matter to me. I wouldn't ask, either. People deserve their privacy. But I'm aware of how outdated that concept may sound or be, nowadays. If I got to know, I'd like to know from the start. Because... yes.
The least I'd expect would be for the person to respect me and make sure everything was well and safe, before condoms could be considered to be overlooked. I always made sure to watch my health in regards to others.
I'm aware that for this hypothetical STDs are to be diaregarded but still...
But "body count"? What happened to "sex partners" or "lovers"? Got too clinical or too intimate? I'd like to understand the almost pathological need of lingo nowadays to create distance or sound military. In this case, both at the same time. Let's dehumanize ourselves a bit more.
Going back to the original question again:
No, it does not matter how many people warmed their sheets or enjoyed their bits. Good for them, got lucky, but I get to keep the prize. Maybe share a bit, if we get a bit more on the wild side.
Let's raise the stakes. What if the person is/was a sex worker? A prostitute or maybe a porn actor or actress? Does their line of work makes them less worthy of having emotional needs? Less human? Less of a person? Not really. In my understanding they are as deserving, if not even more, of having someone love, respect and support them.
I remember watching this documentary on sex workers years back and how this actress described her need, after a long day of work of being fucked, to go home, have a shower, have a nice meal with her partner and afterwards go to bed and make love in the missionary position. Telling, isn't it?
And in the extreme scenario of that long line of people stemming from some trauma or perhaps a mental health condition, again, it should not matter at all.
I'm now available for your downvotes and vitriole.
Dated a sex worker - more a 'call girl' than a street contractor - after she was out. She got into it like the stereotype: sperm donor split when she got knocked up, and then she was a single mother outta high school with limited skills and massive bills.
Hey, one of us knew what we were doing back then. Yay!
She was absolutely stunning, too.