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[–] AnarchoBolshevik@lemmygrad.ml 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)

What irks me about sexual insults is that they require sex to be seen as shameful in order to work. If you understand sex as nothing more than a personal matter between adults, without any ā€˜special’ significance, then the insult can only be annoying in an unintended way.

I understand that it is supposed to be a crude metaphor for getting a point across, but it is really lazy rhetoric and only feeds into Northern culture’s need to stigmatize sex as shameful or shocking.

performing a submissive act of that nature on someone who doesn’t deserve it is questionable and kinda sad.

Even if that were the case here, it would be nobody else’s business, just like Mossy Feathers’s sexual relations with her lover aren’t—or at least shouldn’t have been—any of our concern. This is exactly the sort of unsophisticated thinking that I would expect from somebody who uses sexual insults.

[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 11 points 3 days ago

What irks me about sexual insults is that they require sex to be seen as shameful in order to work.

Spot-on. It requires sex to be negative. Those who use sexual insults often confuse destigmatizing sex in general with taking a sex-positive stance, just because you use sex in conversation doesn't get rid of the regressive overtones.