It's generally seen as a submissive act to do it to someone else. There's nothing inherently wrong with it, just like there's nothing inherently wrong with wanting to lick your partner's feet. However performing a submissive act of that nature on someone who doesn't deserve it is questionable and kinda sad.

Inb4 "ur homophobic"

A) I'm not taking an accusation like that from someone who's username is mathemachristian

B) I literally told my girlfriend the other day that when I visit her I'm going to suck her dick so hard she'll think she had bottom surgery. IDK what the fuck that was supposed to mean, but she liked it.

Edit: I've seen people try to set that trap before. It's a cheap way to "gotcha" someone and is usually used to try and accuse them of being homophobic (something about sucking dick being something only gay men do, which isn't even remotely true lol). I see people resort to stuff like that when they don't have anything of more substance. It also ignores that the potential that the user themselves is gay.

Yes.

Please.

Tell me how I, a transbian, am homophobic.

Edit 2: apparently people thought I was saying "you don't have to suck their dick just because they're questionably communist" was supposed to be an insult? No, it's not the act itself lmao. I've sucked cock and I've been told I'm very good at it, and that's not something I shy away from. Nor is there anything wrong with being a sub. I'm a really subby furry ffs. No, it's the idea that someone would suck an authoritarian's dick is what I find issue with. It's not the what, it's the who. Just like I'd be very concerned if you were sucking off Trump; however if you said you wanted to suck off some widely loved political figure or celebrity then I'd be all for it.

[–] mathemachristian@lemmy.ml 15 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Are you trying to tell me you did not mean "suck their dick" in an insulting way like "lick their boot"? That you meant it in an actually very sex-positive way?

[–] AnarchoBolshevik@lemmygrad.ml 12 points 5 months ago (1 children)

What irks me about sexual insults is that they require sex to be seen as shameful in order to work. If you understand sex as nothing more than a personal matter between adults, without any ‘special’ significance, then the insult can only be annoying in an unintended way.

I understand that it is supposed to be a crude metaphor for getting a point across, but it is really lazy rhetoric and only feeds into Northern culture’s need to stigmatize sex as shameful or shocking.

performing a submissive act of that nature on someone who doesn’t deserve it is questionable and kinda sad.

Even if that were the case here, it would be nobody else’s business, just like Mossy Feathers’s sexual relations with her lover aren’t—or at least shouldn’t have been—any of our concern. This is exactly the sort of unsophisticated thinking that I would expect from somebody who uses sexual insults.

[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 12 points 5 months ago

What irks me about sexual insults is that they require sex to be seen as shameful in order to work.

Spot-on. It requires sex to be negative. Those who use sexual insults often confuse destigmatizing sex in general with taking a sex-positive stance, just because you use sex in conversation doesn't get rid of the regressive overtones.

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