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Serving is defiantly an art. I can make friends on an aeroplane or a train. Fairly easy going and entertaining and despite not really having that filter that says "dont say that shit man" people tend to like me. Yet I find interacting with people exhausting. So i prefer not to have too many interactions if I can help it. Sometimes go weeks without actually talking to another human! I was a capable server but I hated every second of it.
The best server I ever worked with, was incredibly good. Personable. Absolutely just a delightful person in general. Great with people and really loved the human interactions. Would sit down at the table if there was space. Get to know the guests. Make them feel at home. Give them all the good pointers on the menu and bits to do in the area. Smiling and joking around. Calm cool and collected, never in a rush and always just happy. I must say, i envied her way of being. I think she mastered that Darren Brown mind fuckery where she'd touch you on your arm and you'd just open your wallet.
Yeah I'm the same way, I didn't hate the job, but I'm not all that social especially with groups or people I don't know. Serving forced me to overcome that fear though, and I'll always be grateful for that.