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Yeah. I mean, I get it. The concept of the app makes sense. And I would be that, on average, it is/would be used for good.
On the other hand, as a guy, the idea that people are out there sharing reviews of me as a person on the open internet, and I have no way of knowing this, is deeply unsettling. Like, I haven't done anything wrong - just the whole concept feels very gross.
Especially because the app is called "tea", like the slang term for gossip. The letter of the intention may have been good but the whole thing is toxic.
My problem is how it's implemented.
An app where you simply post a name and a location, and then people can DM you with their experiences directly, would be a lot less invasive.
You could ask someone you know to register and share the login, it's a flawed concept. There's probably a bunch of partners in there who didn't even know their boyfriend used their info to create an account to check on themselves.
Can't tell if you're being transphobic to trans femmes or supportive to femme leaning enbies.
Well im talking about external interpretation of ones identity rather than one's intended expression, so you figure it out. Or don't.
I'd say that's supportive of femme leaning enbies rather than transphobic towards trans women.
There are other things it could be. Interperet as you like.
Wait, so you are being transphobic?
That was one of the things you proposed. Im suggesting there are other potential meanings, that you did not propose. i will not be explaining what i do mean any farther than i have; i think i already did a decent job for people reading in good faith with capacity for complexity. I'm done with this conversation, it's already substantially damaged my respect for humanity.
If I wasn't participating in good faith I would've just assumed you were saying something transphobic from the start, but I gave you the benefit of the doubt. Then I said you sounded like you meant the positive (not the negative) of the two things I thought you meant and you said you didn't mean that. So... I'm not sure how you think I'm not participating in good faith when I did all that. Even now I'm not writing you off as a monster, I'm willing to hear what you have to say. I'm waiting for you to tell me what you meant, but you're just being vague and refusing.
I don't know what's more good faith than giving you two benefits of the doubt and willing to give a third if you'd just explain.
Confident I said no such thing. Cite me doing that. Dont actually, i just didn't, but go look at why you think that.
Read what i wrote. Or my explanation of it. I feel like i was as thorough as i could be without being condescending.
Shame i didn't write anything after the clause
I'm just about done with this fucking place and im done going out of my way to explain myself to people who arent making any effort to understand. Communication has two sides, i cannot hold up yours, and i don't need the internet to talk to myself-an activity that offers more gratification and novelty, while costing far less disillusionment and alienation.
Think of me what you will. Hell, accuse me of being the spawn of robert galbraith and adolf hitler. I have very few fucks left to give about this place.
Damn. Seems i said that too early. But i feel like I'm done now.
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Bruh
I kniw right? Its pretty fucked, but sometimes belief that people, or even men, are mostly good gets you raped or crawling through a puddle of your own blood with fewer than four functioning limbs.
Cynical bitches like me though; we tend to make it out.