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If I'm making a post I make sure it's relevant to the community I'm posting to, but just commenting on posts that show up in my feed I dont bother most of the time. Most message board rules boil down to "stay roughly on topic and dont be a dick to the other people here" anyway; you probably dont need to know most message board rules if youre adhering to that.
There are some women only communities, like WomensStuff. I respect that women want to have their safe spaces without men inserting themselves into the conversation.
”But what about us??? Men have it difficult to!”
But usually it’s obvious from the title alone that it’s about woman subject.
I dont have a ton of respect for people making or enforcing exclusionary spaces on public message boards like that. If they really wanted a separate safe space they'd have something like beehaw with moderated sign-ups and a closed door policy to people who dont go through the verification. I dont care about it enough to argue and I go with a "block and let live" strategy regarding those kind of places, but im also not about to spend time or energy policing myself beyond the aforementioned "on topic, dont be a dick" because a bunch of people intentionally chose the wrong hosting tool for an exclusionary community so they can (in my opinion) performatively other people they dont like in a public space.
Yeah! If women want their own space they should sequester themselves into a backroom with no advertising and an onerous sign-up process requiring an ID check that no one ever sees or hears about but somehow all women will know it exists because they have a psychic sense for those kinds of things
Blud sequestering themselves from men is literally the stated goal of that kind of community. So... yeah? If people want to be sequestered that does involve sequestering themselves somewhere. Maybe if you feel like those kind of places are hard to find you should engage in some praxis and spread the word about them rather than crying at me because I feel othered by a "no men allowed" sign planted in a public forum. Wanting a safe space is valid. Trying to force people you dont like out of an open space to create that safe space is not valid.