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For masculine identifying folks, what were the things you did (or had happen to you) that you feel helped you transition into adulthood and find fulfilling community?

Statistics suggest that a large number of men feel isolated, unvalued by society, and dysfunctional, but it's not 100%.

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[–] TommySoda@lemmy.world 91 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

I got a few things that have helped me figure things out.

  1. Nobody has this shit figured out. We're all just kids with jobs and responsibilities now.

  2. The only people that care about how manly another man is are other men that wanna feel superior to you. It's okay to want to feel manly if that's what you want, but don't do it for someone that probably didn't like you to begin with. Why work so hard to earn the approval of someone you don't like?

  3. Men are just as emotional as women and the sooner you realize that the sooner you can start dealing with your emotions in a healthy way.

  4. Don't try and find people that fit the very specific definition of "friend" that you have in your head. Every friendship and relationship is unique and should be appreciated for what it is instead of what it isn't.

  5. Failure doesn't mean that you are a failure. Try and figure out why you failed instead of focusing on the fact that you did fail. You learn a lot more about yourself from your failures than your success.

[–] tisktisk@piefed.social 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

No. 1 gets revealed to be more true with every decade

5 is last but not least, only ones never failing are those never trying

[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 16 points 2 days ago

More TommySoda on the internet!