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For masculine identifying folks, what were the things you did (or had happen to you) that you feel helped you transition into adulthood and find fulfilling community?

Statistics suggest that a large number of men feel isolated, unvalued by society, and dysfunctional, but it's not 100%.

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[–] NONE_dc@lemmy.world 7 points 4 days ago

After going to therapy and taking medication for my depression, I was able to clear my mind enough to take improving myself seriously. What I did was:

  1. Realize that, in reality, the vast majority of people don't give a damn about you, in the sense that only the weirdest and most annoying ones are going to judge you or look down on you; the rest generally won't care, and that's liberating.

  2. Being more honest with myself, doing what I really want to do, and not feeling sorry or ashamed for saying no and setting boundaries.

  3. Helping those around me when I see the opportunity. I used to see myself as useless, but now that I actively seek to help others and realize that it's not something others usually do, I feel better about myself.

  4. Set and achieve goals. I am currently in the process of building my first Gaming PC and have been gathering the parts little by little, which has given me a great sense of accomplishment and makes me believe that I can achieve greater things.

  5. Accept what I cannot change on my own and not let misfortunes get me down. Just as good times end, so do bad times.

  6. Take responsibility for my mistakes, my screw-ups, and my prejudices. Analyze them and see what I can change, how to change it, and how I can make amends for any damage I have caused, even if it was not with bad intentions.

  7. Stay true to my ideals and principles.

  8. Never stop dreaming of a better and different future, and work little by little to achieve it. Pessimism only seems mature when you are 12 or 15 years old and know nothing about life. Life is beautiful, and the future is full of possibilities.