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Where once people were duped by soft-focus photos and borrowed chat-up lines, now they have to watch out for computer-generated charm. But it’s one thing to use a witty phrase – another thing entirely to build a whole fake persona …

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[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 26 points 1 week ago (7 children)

to meet the man she’d spent the last three weeks opening up to.

First off, don't chat for three weeks before a date. That's a terrible idea. You're going to build up a faulty model of who they are and then be jolted when you meet them in real life. Which is exactly what happened here.

Second, to all the people using chat gpt, I don't know how to say this nicely but fucking git gud. What a bunch of sad sacks that can't have a conversation, can't read a wikipedia article, can't even try their honest best.

a workaround for what he sees as the coded jargon of modern dating. “Like, what do you mean ‘What’s my attachment style?’” he balks. “Every girl on the apps has this thing about ‘love languages’ – it’s just gibberish

Is it though? Take five minutes to read about it if it's so ubiquitous. What a sack of shit.

I'm a pretty average guy and I was getting 1d4-1 dates per week just by matching with people and asking them out. You really don't need to do more than be genuine, present, and interested in them.

[–] jve@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Also, make sure to follow rule number one of dating: don’t be unattractive.

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 3 points 1 week ago

What do you mean exactly? If you think some people are just innately attractive and that's immutable and unattainable, that's nonsense.

Easily changed stuff like a better haircut, better fitting clothes, a better photo, all go a long way.

I'm a very average guy with a wardrobe of thrift store finds and band tshirts. I'm not even 6' tall. But I did try to whole-ass engage with every potential match instead of doing bullshit like chatgpt or copy-pasted ice breakers.

Also a real fast way to be unattractive is having an ugly worldview. Most people aren't going to like someone who treats them like shit. Someone who has a genuine conversation and shares interests will go farther.

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