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I'm sorry that you find this relatable. Unfortunately, I do too. It seems pretty unlikely that your parents aren't your real parents, but regardless, it's valid and okay to wish that you had different parents.
I don't necessarily wish that I had different parents, but more that I wish my parents were different people when they had me. That probably doesn't make much sense, but what I mean is that I am estranged from my parents because it wasn't possible to have an emotionally safe relationship with them. My mom in particular tried her best, but she was pretty messed up from abuse that she suffered as a child. I often wonder how things could've been different if she'd been able to get a bunch of therapy and find a supportive community before she had kids.
Like I say, it's okay to feel wistful, just try not to ruminate too much. The key thing to remember is that you deserve good parents, and it's reasonable to feel grief if that's not something you have; I've found that trying to force myself to not feel hurt by the unfairness can just make the sadness more intrusive.
Having shitty parents is a pretty tough disadvantage, and certainly I often wonder how many of my mental health problems are attributable to my childhood. Your background doesn't need to define you though. I know many people who, like me, became properly estranged from their parents, and felt liberated afterwards. It sucks that I had to go no contact with them, but after I had the freedom to build a life of my own, it was a healthy step. I also know many who were able to build a healthier relationship with their parents as adults โ basically what I tried to do, but it worked out well for them.
The point that I'm trying to make is that you're not defined by your parents. Not now and not ever. Just never forget that you deserve love, care and respect, especially from your family. I've found this is a key thing for avoiding the wistfulness spiral into a deeper depression. If your blood family isn't able or willing to give you the support you need to thrive, then take it from me that family isn't just something you have by blood, but it can be something you build, and that found family is valid.