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Dunno how else to call it. Got me a job. It's not a bad job. I like the work I do, I tolerate the people there, the hours are not long, it's unionised so they can't harrass me when I'm off the clock, it pays the bills I got.

.... But god damn. Once I'm home I lack the drive to do literally anything.

I've stopped going to gym, I often eat junk cuz I just don't wanna cook, even my hobbies are being left to gather dust. After working my 9-to-5 I just wanna lie down and rot until it's work time again.

So the question is, how do the better-adjusted adults handle this?

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[–] blarghly@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago

As others have said in this thread: don't go home after work. Go somewhere else. That's it.

If you wanna start doing a workout routine, join a gym close to your work and go straight there instead of going home. Want to learn to dance? Find something to do away from home until it is time to go to a dance class that happens every week. Have hobbies you would normally do alone at home? Start a group dedicated to doing those hobbies together in a public place, and meet there regularly.

If you feel really exhausted after your workday, almost universally you can use this technique: go to the next place you are going to be, find somewhere to sit or lay down, then set a timer for 15 minutes and just close your eyes. You can meditate if you want, but that's not what this is about. You are literally just sitting there, doing nothing, resting your eyes. The hardest part is dealing with the fact that you feel bored and want to look at your phone - don't. Being bored is a way to mentally recover from your stress. Looking at your phone doesn't do this.

Then, work on building up a schedule of events in your life for your after-work time. These should be things that:

  1. Are fun. They are things you actually want to do. They are goals you chose for yourself because they are personally meaningful.
  2. Are social. You are spending time with other people with the same interest, who you enjoy spending time with. You can reasonably expect that they will be happy to see you, and that you will be happy to see them.
  3. Are regularly scheduled. You should be showing up to the same place at the same time every day or week.

Gradually build up a schedule like this for 4-5 days out of the work week, and possibly on the weekend. Leave one afternoon per week open for life admin - laundry, cleaning, groceries, etc.