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When "doing it", are you regularly thinking about putting clothes away, which clothes to wash next or if you emptied the washing machine? Or when you washed your clothes the last time?

Is it distracting to the point you get soft (for penis havers) or dry (for ADHDers with vaginas)?

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[โ€“] zshornyposting@lemmynsfw.com 7 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Not really. With medications and nerves I've run the gamut from premature to fully unable to finish, and this is not something I usually have trouble with. Maybe its because I am in a BDSM couple and often my focus is already split between the physical sensations and the work needed to make a scene good for my partner. Sex is engaging enough I generally get hyperfocused rather than having intrusive chore thoughts.

[โ€“] janus2@lemmy.zip 4 points 3 weeks ago

This may partially explain why I (and many other NDs I know) have gravitated towards BDSM.

Need more side quests. "Have orgasm with partner(s)" not interesting enough. "Hi I would like to try sex but extra, please."