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40's female. every day or every other day for me. and sometimes multiple times per day.
i feel that I didn't really take off until I was in my 30s, honestly. and after then its been like I am now.
but I feel quite normal. so I'm sure its normal for you too, Miss Curator!๐
As a married man, more than I would like to. My wife has wonky hormones and she's only in the mood right after her period. The doctor has me on bi-weekly testosterone shots that I stretch out into 4 weeks because they make me all horned up. It sucks when you can't get somewhere to take care of that distracting urge.
Working with attractive young women doesn't help either. Dear God I don't know what happened. Suddenly I feel like that creepy old dude.
I'm grossing myself out.
Haha well if it is any consolation I also work with several attractive people of both male and female genders, and it is very distracting when I am in the office, low rise short skirts on the ladies and tight gym attire on the men seems to be the current trend. And it is very eye catching.
I'm interested in the testosterone, is the effect both physical and psychological for you?
Family bathrooms work as a safe place to wring one out.
I'm pooped if I do it more than once every 2-3 days. Sometimes go for weeks without. Guy btw. But then, we have to reload. Seems fair that people without a reload timeout should masturbate more often.
Yes. This is my habit as well. I feel weird for the opposite reason as OP as I'm a guy who doesn't do it daily if not several times a day. I guess I could technically, but do I really have the time and energy for it?
I'm a guy, but yeah, often several times per day. Occasionally none. I'd say you're fairly normal.
Every day or every other day i would say is normal. Depending on time availability.
Once a day on average, early 30s male. Has been that way forever for me.
Well, if you mean normal as a synonym for typical or common, then a couple of times a week is where most adult, premenopausal women sit. Or, those that were willing to take part in surveys, which could skew things.
If you mean normal as a synonym for healthy, then normal is whatever frequency meets your sexual needs without interfering with the rest of your life.
Women tend to masturbate more as an enhancement of their sex life, supposedly (I didn't do the studies, so I can only say so much). Which means that you might masturbate more often when having a satisfying sex life with partners. Men tend to have an upper limit to ejaculation frequency that tops out with a couple of times a day for most men before they can't get an erection; the body just says nope and takes a rest. Three, maybe four ejaculations is where the average guy can crank some out, and most can't sustain that every day.
Mind you, men can orgasm without ejaculation! But it ain't easy to learn.
Women tend to be limited more by sensitivity and friction. The tissues of vulvae, vaginas, and clitorises gets abraded at some point, and with the elevated sensitivity brought on by orgasm, the typical woman is going to hit a similar limit as men in terms of sessions, but a higher number of orgasms may be involved per session. But! Those tissues recover quickly, so women are usually able to sustain their preferred frequency no matter how many a day it is, as the next day will have things back to typical conditions (again, on average).
So, if you're an every day kinda gal, don't worry. You're within known boundaries of frequency. As long as it isn't messing with the rest of your life, have fun and let the other people think what they will.
Thank you for taking the time to reply โค๏ธ it's good to know I am not that far above the bell curve
30 something guy here.
I oscillate. Usually somewhere between once every 2 days and 3x/day.
However, I've noticed that I feel almost no urge to masturbate when I spend a lot of time in nature - eg, on long backpacking trips. My theory is that - while there is nothing really wrong with masturbation - what is actually happening is that I am masturbating to counteract the stress of modern life. If I feel tired or lonely or anxious or sad, my brain knows it can feel happy chemicals just by beatin' the ol' bishop.
In this way, it feels similar to hunger. Sometimes I eat because I need food. But the vast majority of the time, I eat because I feel a compulsion to make myself feel good by eating.
So it might be worth considering if your desire of masturbate is coming from actual horniness, or a desire for some form of enjoyable escape from the moment you are in.
30 something male, average is 1-2 times a day. Some days it's none, some days I get those demons in me. Down from 3-4 per day when I was younger, and some of those were deliberately prolonged sessions. Still do that now and then, but I've got shit to do most of the time.
I am married, but her libido only really spikes once or twice a week so that doesn't affect much. When I had multiple partners I almost never masturbated, but I was having sex multiple times per day, so.