Aside from what I would consider normal frequency, I feel like depression or stress can affect the weekly average as well.
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Do you have ADHD? If you do than you're probably just chasing dopamine. Doesn't mean you're doing it an unhealthy amount, but if you're doing it cuz you're 'bored' not, 'horny' than that's probably why.
Me personally it aches afterwards if I jack it too many times in one day. I don't know about women. I imagine uterine walls can only handle so much dildo friction while clits can only handle so much vibrator stim before they start complaining.
I also think what kind of porn you consume, if any, can be a factor. Like when I go long stints away from the wife watching porn I get desensitized mentally and seek out more intense content. I think depending on the person and the content it can have negative mental effects if overdone.
I do actually, though I tend to be actually horny, usually because of porn I guess, which is very a very regular part of my routine.
I don't usually use toys, just fingers. With exceptions maybe once a week. I have always been multi orgasmic though, even from the age I first found my clit really. It doesn't get sensitive unless I really abuse it lol
You might have a bit of a feedback loop going. Your body craves dopamine and gets it from being horny so when it needs dopamine it makes you horny so you'll go get it.
I have adhd and i found my boy-clitoris way before my parents expected and somehow built a habit casually masturbating while playing video games before I could even physically ejaculate. So now when I'm playing a game I still get the urge to stop and jack off simply cuz of how they got associated.
Same, I was a very early starter and console controller vibrations helped a lot.
I mean, I'm an asexual and sex-repulsed person, so I don't get horny, let alone masturbate, ever.
However, there are also men and women in this world that do that shit constantly.
So I don't know, anything between "never" and "constantly," inclusive, is a normal amount.
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The only "problem" with a high libido is if you have a mismatched libido compared to your partner. You and your partner seems perfectly matched. Also as a women you are theoretically insatiable because you don't have a refectory period like men. Go crazy girl.
If you want some perverted strangers advice about this come join you discussion at Savage Love. You will find a lot of people (including women) who have a similar libido as you. Or at least interested in sex and sex positivity
I love how many shout-outs Dan Savage gets here. Great recommendation!!
It might just be me. Lol.
Haha well you're not alone at least, I tend to recommend Savage Love pretty often, too. We'll get the entirety of Lemmy to be more open-minded about sex whether they like it or not lol
We will bring them along kicking and screaming if we have to.
fellow lady in her late 30's. Once a day for me, nearly everyday. It takes me about 60 seconds to climax, and I move on to my day. I dont think what youre doing is too much, even if there is such a thing. I can even make myself cum with just thoughts only, if im stoned enough late at night in bed. Ive had some radical climaxing from thoughts alone.
dont compare yourself to others, you good :)
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I’m married so very rarely plus early 40’s so that sex drive is much less then it used to be
I'm a late 20's male and I can go three or four times a day. More often once or twice. I've been horny as fuck lately. I love your username btw.
As long as it doesnt affect your daily life it doesnt, matter flick your bean till it falls off.
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38 male. 1-3 times per day.
It's more commonly once per day as I get older, and the drop in libido is welcome. My partner only wants sex once per week, and she thinks I'm crazy (though she does come 1-4 times when we do have sex, and I only come 1-2 times, so that might explain it)
I wish I could find another partner with a higher libido, because it's a strain on our relationship.
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