Because men are "allowed" to look however they want, grouchy, happy or 'keep the fuck away from me'. If a women does it she's got "resting bitch face" or gets told to smile. It's just a subtle way of saying "you don't look right here let me change you". If you kept saying it to guys they'd tell you to fuck off.
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Tell us a story of the last time you witnessed someone telling a man to smile because he would look so much better if he did.
I can't, either. That's why.
Nobody asked Luigi to smile, he just did..
An older trucker told me (a man (at the time)) that I'd look better if i did. Not "cuter" or "prettier" but it felt slimy, still. I have one example of that and hecking dozens of examples of these old fucks hitting on female cashiers. Straight up inviting a young woman into the shower with regularity. Anyway,
yeah, this is why its sexist: Men want women to make their dick hard (in a manner of speaking).
Well people have frequently mistaken me for a woman most of my life and thats happened to me a few times. Its intrusive and irritating to be told I should look a certain way, especially by a stranger and I would consider it rude to say to anyone unsolicited.
Thats not to say its not worse for women having to deal with the objectification layer, too.
I agree with the sentiment, but I, a man, actually have customers tell me to smile more weirdly often working retail.
And they say it’s because “you’re prettier when you smile” or something like that?
That's one exception that doesn't surprise me. Do you have any sense of how often they are doing this with intentional irony compared to with genuine obliviousness?
It's really only creepy old dudes I get it from. It seems pretty genuine most of the time. These comments are more frequent and more egregious with my women coworkers, though, as one might expect.
Why is how good a woman looks to you more important than her own feelings?
Why are you turning this into a personal attack? Asking women to smile is not something I do.