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Today marks the start of my first week of unemployment after quitting. My boss and I were into each other, but he refused to pursue anything with me while I worked there because it would’ve been unethical. So I quit.

Worth it.

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[–] idunnololz@lemmy.world 1 points 54 minutes ago

I had what a lot of people would probably consider the ideal job situation.

I paid my dues and worked moderately hard for 4 years. The company grew from a medium sized company to a massive company. Everything was bogged down by bureaucracy. I ended up being a tiny cog of a massive machine. It felt like what I worked on didn't really matter anymore and because of the bureaucracy I was only really working 10 maybe 20 hours a week. The work-life balance, perks were all amazing. But I was still young at the time (pre-30) and I thought it was way too early in my career to stop giving a fuck.

So I quit and got a job at a startup. Lots of work, but it also felt like I was learning again. It felt like I was being challenged. I don't regret it, but maybe if I ever get burned out I will try to find a job like that again.

[–] echodot@feddit.uk 1 points 1 hour ago

I didn't, I was fired because I couldn't work, because I was sick, because they made another sick guy turn up to the office during in global pandemic.

Anyway jokes on them, because I was able to get a different job that I hate as soon as I got out of hospital.

[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

I was dying.

Not exaggerating, get your thyroid checked.

[–] Someonelol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

I set up a reliability lab with my boss while we were the only two members of the new department in the company to test our developmental equipment against the competition. After testing our competitor's gear and finding out they can withstand anything short of being run over with a truck, the head of R&D refused to give us any units to compare with. My boss kept pushing for the units and caused the head of R&D to pull strings to have him fired instead.

I ended up having nothing to do in an empty lab for a few weeks before deciding to quit. I'm glad I did because the R&D units were a dumpster fire and never made it to market. The company wasted over a hundred million buying patents and facilities to develop a garbage product.

[–] Semester3383@lemmy.world 2 points 5 hours ago

So, uh, how's it going with your former boss then?

I quit my last job because I decided to move from the south to the extreme northern end of New England. Now I've got a stupidly long commute ever day, but I also have a 70 acre homestead that's 15 miles from the nearest flyspeck town or gas station.

[–] LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world 3 points 6 hours ago

I was fired for bullshit from my last job. My job before that, I quit without notice because the place was soul sucking and a capitalist nightmare and I literally cried at my desk daily. If you value your sanity, never work in health insurance claims no matter how desperate you are for money.

[–] noxypaws@pawb.social 4 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

got PIPed the instant I returned from work after a week of bereavement for my grandpa's death, then the week after that we had to euthanize our dear sweet dog of 12.5 years so I took another week off to mourn him.

Literally, 8am Monday when I get back, meeting with my manager PIPing me.

Except I didn't quit. I made an effort with the PIP until my manager nitpicked over the dumbest shit. Silently decided it wasn't worth trying to salvage, so I made them fire me.

I still got unemployment and two weeks severance on top of that. If I had accepted the voluntary resignation alternative to the PIP Id be worse off

[–] Omgpwnies@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

voluntary resignation alternative

The term is "constructive dismissal." Get them to put it in writing and either a) they'll cave, or b) you got a case that most employment lawyers would take on contingency.

Most likely is they'd cave.

[–] noxypaws@pawb.social 1 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

It was in writing. I rejected it and went for the PIP instead. And I came out slightly ahead than if I had chosen the resignation, regardless of the specific term.

I would not have been likely to come out ahead going after them for constructive dismissal.

What do you think I would have gained from lawyering up? (if I had the spoons to do that anyways, which I didn't being in intense grief)

[–] BreadOven@lemmy.world 5 points 7 hours ago

Got a new job that paid more than double the last one and comes with a pension.

[–] Sludge@sh.itjust.works 2 points 6 hours ago

My prior employer hired me as remote then had me start coming in 3x a week and the drive was ~1.5 h without traffic and 3+ with traffic. It was too much of a strain on my well-being and family life so I left. I now work fully remote and make 30% more.

I was director level and they were putting me through hell. I found a job working with friends and it's been stellar since leaving that shitty job. I also felt like their approach to stuff was backwards and archaic... The exec team would review PowerPoint printouts with a red pen then ask for updates... Everything printed... Insane (among other things)

[–] raspirate@lemmy.world 6 points 9 hours ago

I had very specifically stipulated a hybrid arrangement when I started. Apparently I didn't get that in writing anywhere, but the vibes were good and I didn't expect them to back track on that (foolish on my part). I was leaving a fully remote position for the role, and the fact that I'd be earning more money was the only reason I agreed to some time in the office.

They tried to force me into the office 5 days a week, and I made it very clear that I wasn't going to do that. My manager was fine with this, but their boss was insisting on the schedule change. They fired me and I recently learned that they are now on their 3rd attempt in 6 months to hire a replacement. The person currently in that role does less than I did and they're paying them nearly 20k more.

Oh well, hopefully about to land a new job with better pay and back to being fully remote. Honestly by the time they fired me, I was just glad to get the hell out of there.

[–] HeHoXa@lemmy.zip 1 points 7 hours ago

It was a totally mutual two way equitable firing

[–] Danitos@reddthat.com 9 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

They asked me to develop and install a very invasive spyware on computers (both personal and company's) of all employees.

[–] PrimeErective@startrek.website 5 points 9 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Danitos@reddthat.com 5 points 7 hours ago

Yeap. I know they ended up getting nudes of an employee's OnlyFans due to that.

[–] JonnyW@lemmy.world 7 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Left my job 6 months ago because I was burnt out. I went from being a software developer in a team of 4 to being the only developer at the company. Then the IT support guy left so I was also doing IT support for 30 retail stores along with my regular job. I didn’t have a review or pay rise in the 4 years I was with the company. There was some other stuff around data privacy which was the final straw for me so I left. Still unemployed.

[–] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Obviously the workload they were putting on you was way beyond a rational amount for one person. If you're willing to talk about it, can I ask if you considered simply refusing to do more than "one person's" amount of work and asked them to prioritize all your tasks so you could work on the things they deemed most important? Obviously this could lead to you being fired, but if you were already set to quit, the outcome would have been the same (except perhaps you'd be eligible for unemployment insurance).

[–] JonnyW@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah, it was meant to be one of those ‘temporary’ situations until they found the right people. It became pretty obvious after a while that they weren’t planning on hiring. A couple of months before I quit, I sat down with my boss and told him I couldn’t do my job because I had too much work. I also mentioned that I was burning out. His response was ‘just do what you can’. I gave it a couple of months to see anything would come of our conversation but it didn’t.

The reason that I stayed so long was because it was in an industry that I’m passionate about and that I wanted to be in. I was hoping that things would improve but they didn’t.

After I resigned, they hired 2 people to replace me. I spent my notice period onboarding them.

[–] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

His response was ‘just do what you can’. I gave it a couple of months to see anything would come of our conversation but it didn’t.

This sounds like he was okay with you pushing back on any work that was too much and saying "no" to any task beyond your reasonable work limits. Even with this did you feel the damage to the working relationship was just too far gone?

[–] reallyzen@lemmy.ml 12 points 14 hours ago

Because the season is over. Yeah, gonna miss the view from my office.

That's alright, I'll be back next year.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 5 points 12 hours ago

I wanted out of Ohio because they were passing bigoted laws, so I quit my job and moved out west

[–] Territorial@piefed.ca 18 points 15 hours ago

The boss was incompetent and well on the way to driving the company to bankruptcy or worse. I was self-employed.

[–] tough_cookies@lemmy.cafe 6 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Toxic boss who's entire personality was his job. He was very smart, and not a complete monster, but it was quite sad that he had no life outside of work and expected us to be the same.

[–] LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world 2 points 6 hours ago

My boss is the same way. He seems to have given up with a lot of us under him because we refuse to give up our work life balance

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 14 points 15 hours ago

I only literally quit once, it was because the men in the same position were paid more than me, but I got the more difficult/busy shifts. Basically I was paid less for doing more, because I was a woman.

The other times I left jobs were layoff (company bought out by another) maternity, and once fired as I was shit at that job, it was also a shit job for me, very bad fit so that's ok.

[–] P1nkman@lemmy.world 33 points 18 hours ago

Because my ex boss blocked me from a promotion because I was her best worker.

I was working support, and was learning full stack in my spare time. Showed the Devs in the company some of my projects, and that's when they wanted me to work with them, since I already knew the system. Since I was rejected, I found a dev job within 2 weeks, and handed in my resignation. My manager was furious and asked why; the look on her face when she realised that it was because of her was great.

Now working as a fullstack developer for 4 years.

Fuck you, Lena!

[–] belathus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 11 hours ago

Things went downhill for a long time.

I did refrigeration at a factory. I found out shortly after I was hired that the factory used to belong to another company, and was phasing out old company's policies. Things got worse, but it wasn't too terrible. I was paid well, worked decent hours, had a lot of freedom. But one of the leads of our team started developing a drug habit. Got addicted to painkillers, and when those started running out, he got addicted to alcohol. Started showing up to work drunk.

One time, on a weekend when he wasn't even scheduled to work, he decided to drive a forklift through the boiler room. He hit a steam pipe, which started leaking. He also hit the deaerator tank and an air compressor. The damage was pretty bad. He was told to get a drug test by the manager on duty that weekend, so he called his own manager to avoid that. For some reason, on Monday, the on duty manager got fired and not the drunk guy who caused all the damage. I reported this all to HR, but they did nothing about it.

Years later. Same guy kept causing incidents (usually on weekends when he wasn't scheduled to work; I suspect he was digging through scrap bins to pay for his drug habit, which were kept in the boiler room) and his manager kept protecting him. Guy did nothing useful, so I have no idea why the manager kept protecting him (maybe sharing money from the scrap?). I figured it was time to go if these two were able to keep fucking things up. We'd eventually have an incident where people died, and I didn't want to be there for it.

Couple years after I quit, the drug addict OD'd, and the manager was forced into early retirement, so I guess the problem is resolved. Not that I'd ever go back.

[–] HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club 5 points 13 hours ago

I was burnt out and the company was in the process of merging with two other companies. The leadership shifted to a bunch of people who wanted to be in charge but didn't have a plan on doing what their targets were. All changes were sudden and generally led to conditions worse than they were before.

So I left.

[–] neidu4@piefed.social 33 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago) (1 children)

I got poached by my current employer. I was looking for excuse to turn them down, so I responded with a list of demands, and they said yes to everything. The demands were mostly reasonable, with a couple of hilights. Off the top of my head:

  • 40% pay increase
  • Any flight over 4 hours will be business class if available
  • I don't hand in meal receipts for travel days. Flat sum per day no matter what. Cuts down on the paperwork.
[–] Zonetrooper@lemmy.world 8 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Damn, dude. I am envious of your travel arrangements. It's especially incredible how hard it is to convince management that hours spent fiddling with receipts isn't worth whatever small amounts of change they might save from not just paying a flat sum.

[–] neidu4@piefed.social 5 points 14 hours ago

My previous employer had it, but changed to a receipt based system instead. My guess is that they're gambling on some not bothering with handing in miniscule amounts worth of paperwork.

[–] mesamunefire@piefed.social 11 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago) (1 children)

My employer(s) got sent to jail. They stole 401k money among other things. It was on the news!

I didnt quit persay but I had a job lined up about a week before it all happened.

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 5 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

My ex-employer didn't "steal" 401k money, but they did violate plan rules and engineer an illegal allotment that put 60% of the plan in a single company that the CEO and his brother had an interest in.

I ended up getting $5,000 as part of the settlement when got their asses sued to hell for it. They're still millionaires so it doesn't matter, but that 5k will be tens or hundreds of thousands by the time I retire, most likely, and it was satisfying to take a chunk out of them.

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[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 5 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago) (1 children)

It's ironic, in a way. I was in an abusive work environment, with abusive clients, and had to dream up ways to efficiently do the job of three people. It was awful and I was there for over a decade trying to get out, but the methods I invented to make my hellish job easier helped me get hired where I am now.

Two weeks before I left I'm walking into work and I get the call that I've been hired to the job I have now, which has a much better culture and reasonable work load. I was so happy I skipped to work Dick Van Dyke-style and immediately put in my two weeks.

Had a replacement plan done in two days because I already had my tasks inventoried, since I had to keep very close track of my productivity to protect myself from HR and management. I had some tenure and was making more than other employees, and therefore a consistent target for layoffs.

Spent the last week and a half getting paid to do jack shit, though my asshole team did make me take my turn with the on-call pager, even though it made no fucking sense other than spite.

Overall, t'was glorious.

[–] mojofrododojo@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

take my turn with the on-call pager,

lol they can make you take the pager, but they can't make you answer it. what're they going to do, fire you?

[–] azdle@news.idlestate.org 14 points 17 hours ago

I joined a company to work on building out the software stack for their solar power systems for humanitarian aid in Africa. A few months after I started they pivoted to making solar powered mobile surveillance towers for the US border patrol.

-_-

My boss was fired because she was made the weekend supervisor of a different department (together with already being in charge of my department the rest of the time) by complete surprise on a Friday and something went wrong on Sunday which she was blamed for and then fired Monday morning.

Shortly after the interim boss decided that my department needed to work weekend call for the other one, so I jumped ship to a similar company that paid better.

I liked my original boss, and she was very good at her job, so I was already pissed about her being fired (or really set up to be fired). Putting me on call for a department I don't even work at when I specifically took this job in the first place because there was no call was the final straw.

My current boss is incompetent, but also too busy with other things to bother me, so I keep my numbers higher than anyone else in my department to keep her away from me.

[–] BaroqueBobby@lemmy.world 9 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I became the target of company president who wanted me gone and they started scrutinizing my every move, put me on a PiP, made up rumors about my work performance all the bullshit they do before firing you. So I left on my own terms instead of getting fired. Had work lined up before I left, so it worked out.

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 4 points 14 hours ago

Smart. I was put on a malicious PIP too. It was a back door layoff attempt, but I was diligent about documenting my own work and fought it since I could prove my own productivity over that of my teammates.

It took me a long time to get out of that job, but luckily the job I have now is wonderful.

[–] Sordid_Seraphim@lemmy.zip 6 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

My manager had a meeting with all of us and basically said we're all gonna be fired.

Next week they retracted everything they said and said they misunderstood.

The week after that they left the company.

[–] dektep@lemmy.world 36 points 22 hours ago

My employer said he liked Farage. i quit instantly. Freelance gig tho so nothing life changing

[–] Widdershins@lemmy.world 35 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago) (2 children)

Last job I quit I left at noon because the boss who was overworking me told me that day when I got there in the morning that he was cutting my pay. I was feeling overworked. He only had one other worker and when he found out he only had one other worker he looked like he was going to cry over having to do something to keep his business going. Never accept a pay cut from somebody who drives a Corvette. Never.

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[–] Sequentialsilence@lemmy.world 7 points 16 hours ago

Literally waiting for January. New employer won’t have an opening until then. Current job doesn’t know yet.

I haven’t had a cost of living increase in 3 years.

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