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[–] LibertyLizard@slrpnk.net 161 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Sometimes people exaggerate tremendously about "a couple of blocks" in my experience. And it could also involve crossing some very busy intersections.

Or this person is just a moron, that's also an option.

[–] troybot@piefed.social 58 points 1 month ago (43 children)

There are lots of people who don't realize the word "couple" means two. Like they ask me for a couple of something and I give them exactly two and then they are confused because they expected several more.

[–] Malica@lemmy.zip 11 points 1 month ago

They confuse it with "few"

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[–] funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works 24 points 1 month ago

Yeah I was out of town for work in St Louis and got sick, went to the urgent care clinic and got a scrip, the pharmacy was "across the street" - and it was - just the street was 6 lanes of traffic with a concrete divider and no pedestrian crossing. In the end my sick ass dodged cars and climbed the barrier, risking my life, especially as I wasn't feeling well. But I probably should've called an Uber.

[–] OwOarchist@pawb.social 13 points 1 month ago (4 children)

And depending on the age of the kids, letting your kids walk even a couple of blocks could be enough to get the cops and CPS called on you. Unfortunately, the days of letting your kids roam freely outside are over.

[–] plantfanatic@sh.itjust.works 38 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Only in one very specific backwards country*

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[–] warm@kbin.earth 18 points 1 month ago

murica things

[–] Asetru@feddit.org 12 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Not in Europe. Just pick a better place to live.

[–] als@lemmy.blahaj.zone 38 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I wish moving country was that simple

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[–] atomicbocks@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 month ago

You clearly have no idea how hard it is to move.

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[–] cuerdo@lemmy.world 10 points 1 month ago

it surely applies also to letting them unattended in a strangers car

[–] BeelzebubEiNukuKoskaan@piefed.social 105 points 1 month ago (13 children)

Seeing posts like this makes me realise how lucky I am to have been born in a country with sane pedestrian infrastructure and generally safe environment.

I found it funny when I watched a video titled "10 most surprising things about Finland" and one of them was about how kids just walk about in the city, on their own. I was confused as to why that is so shocking but then I remembered that North America has sort of forgot about using legs as a mode of transport.

[–] Wfh@lemmy.zip 40 points 1 month ago (2 children)

North America has sort of forgot about using legs as a mode of transport.

If they remember to use them a moron in a lifted emotional-support-pickup-truck will break every bone in their body at the first intersection. And get away with it. North American city design is not just car-centric, it's actively human-hostile. Giant stroads, no sidewalks, no bike lanes....

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[–] KoalaUnknown@lemmy.world 16 points 1 month ago (3 children)
[–] Jiral@lemmy.world 14 points 1 month ago

This is completely crazy. Land of the free.

"Authorities said they would drop the charge against Patterson if she signs a safety plan that involves the use of a GPS tracker on her son's phone but Patterson told ABC News she is refusing to sign it.

"I just felt like I couldn't sign that and that in doing so, would be agreeing that there was something unsafe about my home or something unsafe about my parental decisions and I just don't believe that," Patterson said.

Patterson, who is currently out on bail, faces up to 1 year in jail with the reckless conduct charge."

[–] A_Random_Idiot@lemmy.world 14 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

America does not want children to exist, yet perpetually laments that children never go outside to play anymore.

and they lament that while not building playgrounds where young children can socialize and play, while destroying third spaces to hang out and socialize in for teenagers, and.. most egregious of all, when they finally do go outside, calling the cops on them for a variety of made up reasons regardless of their age. Especially if their tan is a shade too dark.

[–] BeelzebubEiNukuKoskaan@piefed.social 12 points 1 month ago (10 children)

lol.

Some time ago I picked up my 10 year old niece from the train station. She first walked 3km to a bus stop, then went 15km with the bus to the train station, then 180km to where I picked her up and drove to my parents. Only reason I picked her up was because she didn't know what buses to use etc. After that, my mum showed her how the buses work and which ones to use etc so ever since that, she's been doing the trip completely own her own.

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[–] stoy@lemmy.zip 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I remember the day before the first day of school, my mom walked me to and from the school so I would know the path, every other day I walked myself to school, across a railroad and several blocks.

At 10 I was allowed to bike to and from school ( school rule)

Sweden is great

I was so salty when I lived 50m too close to the school and wasn't "allowed" to bicycle to the school haha. After a couple of years, I realized that nobody is going to punish me, or care, if I used a bicycle.

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[–] atomicbocks@sh.itjust.works 95 points 1 month ago (7 children)

From Uber’s driver help page:

If you suspect a rider is underage

  • Politely ask them to show a driver’s license or ID card to confirm their age.
  • You have the option to cancel the trip if you believe the rider is underage (Select unaccompanied minor as the cancellation reason and potentially receive a cancellation fee).

They apparently do have Teen rides now but only through a connected account and only in a few cities. I would assume Lyft has similar policies.

[–] sukhmel@programming.dev 24 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I wonder if the parent could've just accompanied them and returned in the same Uber, it's not even a new ride back

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[–] Snowclone@lemmy.world 21 points 1 month ago

it's an insane risk. I work for transportation in k-12 and I would never transport kids without several feet of paperwork, it's difficult even with that. you have to have a lot of policies about what to do if and when anything happens, they won't get out, they have a medical emergency, they refuse to use a seat belt, they scream racial slurs, they start a journey of self discovery, they hit their head on hard objects for fun, they punch windows aggressively while screaming, they report criminal acts of themselves or others, they light up a Jay, they start discovering others, they forcefully insist on discovering others without consent, and so on. unaccompanied minors are a nightmare just in terms of liability and crisis management.

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[–] Fishnoodle@lemmy.world 74 points 1 month ago (2 children)

This country is such a backwards shit hole. People are afraid to let their kids walk a few blocks, on a route they're familiar with, cause some asshole may try and call DCFS on them.

Meanwhile there are more fucking cameras deployed in public than in any time in human history, and they have the capability to network together and track people and relay information to police, emt's, for fire departments, etc all in real time... But we don't use it to help make people safer, or give them peace of mind, or allow their kids to play and be free.

That should tell you everything about the real intentions of all this surveillance bullshit.

It's not here to keep the slaves safe. It's here to keep them in line

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 23 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Those few blocks may be constructed in such a way that they'd be walking in the road with traffic whizzing around them. If there ever was a sidewalk it's been removed to add another lane for cars.

[–] BeMoreCareful@lemmy.world 11 points 1 month ago

💯 it could be a couple of blocks of six lane highway lite suburban hellscape and not a couple of blocks of residential roads.

...But if it was residential roads then lol

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[–] Devial@lemmy.world 56 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

tbf, in many places in America walking a couple blocks is a legitimately bad and dangerous idea, especially for kids, because pedestrian/non-car infrastructure and safety is so dog shit

[–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 40 points 1 month ago

I'm a school bus driver and we have an insane number of kids that get transported less than half a mile, solely because we lack sidewalks and drivers here are batshit crazy.

[–] lemmygarden@lemmy.today 33 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I was already on the drivers side with the "we do it all the time. it's just down the street" I don't really care if they do it all the time. The driver doesn't want to drive kids. but telling the driver to fuck off is worse. Wonder if the driver can get more pay for the harassment. Only defense the parent could have had was that the driver could have canceled the trip themself.

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 month ago

Wonder if the driver can get more pay for the harassment.

I'd love to live in whatever reality you think we live in...

[–] AHemlocksLie@lemmy.zip 12 points 1 month ago

Pretty sure drivers get penalized for cancelations somehow. Since they aren't the one causing the problem, they'd rather not be the one to incur a penalty for it.

[–] Raiderkev@lemmy.world 24 points 1 month ago

I drove Uber back when it was a new thing. I get pinged once and it's a fucking elementary school. I assumed my rider would be a teacher, or staff of some sort. In walks an (at most), 8 year old girl. She said her brother booked it for her, and he did it all the time. I felt quite uneasy about doing the ride, but I was in a bit of a conundrum because I know I'm of a good enough conscience that I will get her there safely, but surely if I cancelled, the brother would just book another one for her, and who knows what would happen then. In the end, I took her maybe a half mile to her home, but I felt super off about it. In hindsight, I should have just cancelled and reported the rider, but I'm not sure drivers had those resources in those days.

[–] kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world 19 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

So...

A) This woman doesn't trust her children to walk a couple blocks on their own, but does trust a complete stranger to pick them up in their car instead... A+ parenting.

B) I 1000% percent get that driver's hard line here. Best case scenario, you get a couple bucks for carrying some well behaved kids down the street. But the possible worse cases include kids who can't answer questions or follow instructions making your job harder, unruly children damaging your vehicle (and being forced into a position where you need to control a child that is both a stranger and your client), people seeing you pick up unattended children and calling the police, the child making a SA or other legal claim about you and immediately ending your Uber gig while threatening your livlihood and freedom... not worth the risk.

[–] Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

A. There are definitely neighborhoods where this could be the case. Living in such a neighborhood probably means parent is working odd hours and has to make some parenting compromises. I think it's way too easy to pass judgment on parents - it's got to be a monumental task esp in poverty.

What's abhorennt is trying to get a worker to break policy that could jepordize their job and being really rude about it too.

[–] cantstopthesignal@sh.itjust.works 19 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Uh, I know people in Houston (the most car dependent major city in the US) who would call an uber to cross the street because it's so fucking hot in the summer you would need to change your suit if you tried the trip on foot.

[–] ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 39 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Also the street is probably a 14-lane highway.

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[–] uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 1 month ago

Walkin' in L.A., nobody walks in L.A.

Seriously, I was a few blocks from my hotel, looking for a specific restaurant and stopped in a convenience store to get directions.

Yeah, it's that way a couple of blocks. Like, do you want one of us to give you a ride?

[–] bitjunkie@lemmy.world 14 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I can picture this HOA Karen fuming because she doesn't want to put the chardonnay down long enough to walk them herself.

[–] SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 11 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Wanted to say "just take it with you and enjoy it on the walk", but remembered that the land of the free doesn't allow it in a lot of places

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[–] CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Thinking back to my youth when it was just endless sprawl of houses with no side walks or even street lights… I walked around in that “neighborhood” a lot and it always felt scary and unsafe, if rideshare had been a thing back then (and I wasn’t too poor to afford it which I definitely would have been) I would have liked the option to stay off the narrow gravel road shoulders with drivers passing by me at 45-50mph

[–] Schadrach@lemmy.sdf.org 10 points 1 month ago

I mean, it's 2026 leaving kids unsupervised for "a couple of blocks" is probably enough for CPS to come for you. While when I was young it was what basically everyone over about 8 was expected to be fine handling.

[–] rob_t_firefly@lemmy.world 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I don't have to imagine, I did once take an app ride "a couple of blocks." My wife was released from a hospital in our own neighborhood after emergency surgery. Though we live close by, walking home would have been a bad decision.

We thanked the driver for accepting such a short ride, and tipped well.

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