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Feedback unrelated to your core problem. I’ve found that when describing people it’s more appropriate/respectful to use man, woman, person or whichever way you like to describe people, save for male/female. The latter is good for speaking about subjects or patients in a more scientific/clinical/biological way, but can sound impersonal in an “othering” sense. Noones going to throw a fit over this unless you’re in a weird place online, but it does make your language softer and more personable
Yes, using "male" or "female" as a noun (rather than an adjective) is bad form when referring to people. At least, it's non-standard.
That said, language is constantly evolving, and when there is a need, it will be filled. Convention be damned. And there is a need for a noun that means "girl or woman" that isn't clunky. There's no good "standard" word to use. I think that's one of the reasons this usage is becoming more common. (Personally, it gives me the ick, probably because I heard it used mostly in misogynistic contexts c. 2010 and it's hard to shed that connotation. But I see it more and more without that subtext more recently. I suspect in 50 years it will be "standard".)
Similar deal with the singular "they". Some people still complain about that, even though it's been in use for a very long time (centuries, I think).
I, for one, am a strong proponent of...well, my username. After all, "bro" can be short for Broseph or Brosephina.
Nope. You did nothing wrong.
Thank God I'm not single.
You did nothing wrong.
The message was clear: women were meant to be frightened, not empowered by these stories. The power of “fuck politeness” lies in how it “locates women’s daily fears and vulnerability to violence in the context of a feminist politics about deference and men’s status and power.”
Women are socialized from a young age to prioritize others’ comfort, even at the expense of their safety. This “deference behavior” is what feminist scholars identify as one way “women acknowledge and reinforce the higher social status of men.” However, through the MFM community, women find permission to reject these dangerous social expectations.
“Before I became a part of this community and was given permission to ‘fuck politeness,’ I would have uncomfortably chatted with this guy for fear of seeming rude. From a very young age, it’s ingrained in us to be polite and never offend anyone,” wrote one listener in Reddit.
I think you did fine. As a guy with nieces, my standard for how I'd approach a woman socially is how I'd like another man to approach one of my nieces socially. In a public place where she has several outs if she gets a bad vibe from the situation. But also confident and direct. But just because he shot his shot respectfully doesn't mean you owe him conversation. Being at a mall to shop or to walk or to kill time is perfectly fine. A lot of younger people do use it as a meeting place because it is big and public and you can explore similar interests while shopping, or even window shopping. When I was younger, I avoided the mall because "mall people" weren't my kind of people, but now I can see the advantage.
I'd ask you how you'd prefer to be approached, but it's beside the point since you weren't looking to be approached in the first place, and that's fine too.
I don't know what it is but recently I'm seeing a lot of content about people "approaching" strangers and people saying it's normal and people want to be spoken to. Some weird social media trend maybe.
I know I have watched videos about this also, that people say they are not approached or feel like they can't approach others. My thing is body language and eye contact, if I'm out walking around making eye contact and we exchange a hello and see if more occurs fine. But if someone is totally closed off looking away.... take the hint. And like dear lord don't sit down without being invited to ! Chat a minute and ask first.