They don't really like cold weather, and as you mentioned, they are quite finicky early on
If you haven't tried it yet, see if you can:
- Get your hands on fresh seeds
- When washing them, discard any that do not sink. Those floaters rarely grow
- Use fine burnt paddy husk for potting seedlings if available, or try a sandy loam soil (40% sand, 40% silt, and 20% clay)
- Ensure good drainage
- Yet they still like high humidity, so regular watering is good (2x a day), but too much and your root will rot
- First 2 months, keep it in 50% sunshade, after that, it thrives under direct sunlight
I'm closer to the equator, so you might need to adjust if you are in a different latitude