100% of course, but I still won't care
this post was submitted on 15 Feb 2026
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Every complaint about any personal struggle is valid.
But nobody is entitled to anyone giving a fuck, and there's not a lot of fucks around reserved for someone whose main complaint is that their private school cafeteria had too few butlers.
Do you think a child who skins his knee is allowed to cry? I mean, he wasn't shot or tortured, after all. The answer is all pain and struggle is relative to what the person's experiences are.
Yes of course for fuck sakes…
Where do you draw the line? Is only the most miserable person in the world allowed to complain? The bottom 10%? How do you compare someone who was piss poor but loved to someone who was rich but beaten?
Either way I think complaining about the past is a curse you put on yourself and any poor soul that you force to listen. You can tell your story, everyone has one, but complaining should be saved for something that can change in the future.
People from privileged backgrounds didn't choose to have a privileged background either. What matters is what you have experienced in your life and what you do with that experience. Suffering and trauma is not a competition, there are no winners. Everyone's experience is valid. Everyone has a right to complain.
Not everyone has a right for their complains to be listened to and followed up on, though, because complaining on its own doesn't mean anything. What's more important is what your complaint is trying to change, what is your purpose in complaining? That makes all the difference, that's what decides whether you have a "right" for your complaint to be actioned, and that has nothing to do with what background you come from.
Some people from privileged backgrounds might complain in order to assert, protect and extend their privilege, obviously, that's not valid. Others may complain because they want their abuser brought to justice or want other people protected from the same situation, and that's absolutely valid. Has nothing to do with the person being privileged or not, it has to do with their intent.
Yep. Taken to the extreme, only the person in the worst world is allowed to feel bad.
Yes, and that person is me (6'3" white, American, straight, male, 4.5" flaccid 7.625" erect, uncut, ladies hmu)
If they're complaining they couldn't get their monthly yacht then yes they still do have the right to. I also have the right to tell them to shove it all the way up their ass in that scenario.
However, not being able to relate to a complaint doesn't invalidate it. Women complain about period pains, I don't have those parts and hence can't relate, but I'll absolutely validate the complaint if asked to.
Depends on context a bit … abuse? Of course. “I don’t like the color Porsche daddy gave me” of course not.
There are some things that are just wrong regardless of your income bracket. Eg. Let's say your parents give your brother a vacation to Bali for his 16th birthday and they make you stay home by yourself. Even if somebody's parents could never afford to go to Bali, they'd still empathize that the exclusion you experienced was wrong. Whereas complaining that your dream wedding gown designer was booked so you have to get your 2nd favorite is rich person problems territory.
Yes. To complain seems to be a human basic right...
If you don't want privileged people to complain, you have a problem with envy that's all.
It really depends on what they are complaining about. I mean, it's hard to respect someone who complains about all the hard work they have done to get somewhere when they simply inherited a ton of money. Complaining about something unique to that kind of lifestyle, on the other hand, is simply hard to identify with. I can imagine even a good person with enough wealth might feel lonely if everyone around them only cares about the wealth and not the person.
Let's do a thought experiment here.
Pretend that the answer is no - they do not have that right.
Okay - now what? If they don't have the right to do that, then that means... what exactly? Are they to be arrested if they try? Are you somehow granted the right to kill them if they try? Is there any reasonable method by which they can actually be denied that right?
Yes - all people have a right to feel however they feel and to voice their feelings. Or more precisely, nobody can possibly have the right to stop them.
The thing they don't have a right to is your attention, concern, sympathy etc. You're entirely free to grant or withhold those things as you prefer.
Freedom of speech?
What do you define as middle class or rich? Because middle for you can be low on other place or low could be middle in other place? IMHO the class is in the mentality not in the amount of money you have.
"K-Economy" baby!! Middle class exists as a thought experiment only
True fact