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To the LGBT and particularly trans people, how are you holding up these days? (lemmy.world)

submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by FatTony@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Like what with all the fascism going on, Trump teasing a third term, and even now passing a law to be able to deport U.S. Citizens. I can't imagine people taking these threats lightly. So basically, how are you holding up?

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[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 7 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (3 children)

I'm trans, lesbian, and Hispanic. Next week I'm permanently leaving the US with my partner.

This week has had a lot of crying. I cried at my work goodbye party on Tuesday. Yesterday I hosted a going away show for my community at an amazing bar (I'm a performer). Have you ever seen 50 people crying simultaneously at a bar? Today I cried when I said my last goodbyes to my coworkers, since they are actually great people.

So overall very heavy with mixed feelings. I'm thrilled that I have a ticket out of this mess, I'm terrified for my friends and family who are staying behind, I'm beyond furious that this is all happening, I'm mourning the life I'm leaving behind, and I'm exhausted from everything

[–] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago

Best wishes to you wherever you are headed. I imagine soon the sane countries will offer queer people asylum.

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago

This was a heavy read. I really felt that in my heart.

I'm a cis straight man, and I welcome you to Europe if that is where you are going. Please enjoy your stay. Hopefully it won't have to be permanent and you can reunite with your family and friends one day. ❤️

[–] stinky@redlemmy.com 1 points 7 months ago

I'm wishing you safe travel, good luck, and all the love in the world

[–] Diva@lemmy.ml 3 points 7 months ago

I'm holding up well in spite of everything. I lost one of my friends this week. She had moved into what I thought was going to be a safe situation several states away and something clearly went wrong. She was a really smart and inspiring person.

I also just took another friend to the airport so she could permanently relocate to Europe, and two of my other friends are leaving soon too.

It's been a rough week but I'm not planning on leaving, mostly working on organizing the trans people who stay.

[–] BreathlessPuppy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 7 months ago

I don't know what toilet I'm allowed to use now, or which one won't get me murdered... so there's that.

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

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[–] other_cat@lemmy.zip 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I'm sorry but that is the most high def version of that screenshot I have EVER seen.

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 7 months ago

Right!? i don't even remember where i downloaded it from, its just what i had in my generic meme stockpile

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 7 months ago

Really fucking stressed and hoping I can escape the country before I get killed.

[–] pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Haven't killed myself yet so that's something

[–] sixtoe@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 7 months ago

https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/25331072

[–] imnapr@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 7 months ago

I'm not

[–] DoubleDongle@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago

I've got two trans friends who are a lot younger than me and they've both called me dad at this point, which I've been thriving on. I'm teaching one to drive, and I'm helping the other fix her house up. Feels good man.

This has given me the somewhat unique experience of knowing how it feels when your kids are in danger without technically having any kids. I do NOT like this. I've cried, screamed, panicked, and lost sleep. I'm getting a lot of relief from protesting and fighting back, but it hurts a lot.

[–] turtlesareneat@discuss.online 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

It's pretty bleak yes, our own families sold us out for this shit in their malicious ignorance, I just heard a VA employee tell me an email went out advising all hospital staff to remove rainbow lanyards or stickers or anything "safe space" identifying in their offices, because some patient had complained. This came out while we're helping my gay veteran friend get ready to die of cancer. Cause he shouldn't feel safe in the hospital or anything.

[–] gratux@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

The patient that complained should go to a different hospital then. The lack of spine from the hospital administration is embarrassing, frankly apaling.

But given that hospitals in the US are just profit-oriented companies instead of actual healthcare, not too surprising.

[–] turtlesareneat@discuss.online 2 points 7 months ago

VA = federally owned and operated. This was done by design.

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Im desperately trying to leave, I dont know where to go tbh. Germany seems like the best option but the AFD scares me, Britain is also an option but Reform is also scary. The world is a very dark place rn for people like me.

[–] dumblederp@aussie.zone 2 points 7 months ago

Sydney or Melbourne, Australia are pretty accepting. Not without problems but I reckon they'd be good choices if you can meet the visa requirements and get a job.

[–] funkajunk@lemm.ee 1 points 7 months ago (3 children)

Nice try FBI

[–] scroll_responsibly@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Have a good day, NSA

[–] potoo22@programming.dev 2 points 7 months ago

It's not gay if it's TSA

[–] fossilesque@mander.xyz 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Cya later, CIA

[–] Sterile_Technique@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Ciao?

[–] wizardbeard@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, an important reminder that nothing on the fediverse is truly private. Use rotating alternate accounts, opsec, and VPN/proxies if you believe yourself to be in potential danger for your opinions.

[–] Irelephant@lemm.ee 1 points 7 months ago

I'd recommend using tor.

[–] ashenone@lemmy.ml 1 points 7 months ago

To all my LGBT friends out here, stay strapped. Armed minorities are harder to oppress

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 1 points 7 months ago

I'm a bi woman and have always preferred women. But I ended up falling in love with a wonderful man who is now my husband. I'm currently really grateful for that. Loving a woman in this climate would be so stressful. I'm very scared for my trans best friend though.

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

My MRI results came back yesterday, indicating that my left lateral ventricle has stopped expanding and won’t rupture in the future, and my first thought was “oh, I get to endure this future now, but at least I have my wife.”

That’s right, I get the best possible news from my doctor and my first thought was mixed emotions because of the state of this fucking country.

I was denied my Gommage.

Edit: 40 year old trans woman, multiple stroke survivor

[–] archonet@lemy.lol 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

just waiting for the end.

[–] starlinguk@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago

Yup, that's pretty much it. I am in Germany, but they've recently voted in a complete bastard who sucks up to the fascists.

[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world -1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

The current administration is treading on thin ice.

It's not possible to stop the spread of information and resistance in our interconnected world if people want to connect.

And this administration is driving people together.

Hopefully this shit will be over soon, if they keep pushing fascism down our throats they'll be executed by a mob.

Edit: Even if this gets better I'll still probably move to Canada. The US is over unless we fully go radical left.